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What is a “Wild Friday Night”?

Quite commonly over social media, I’ll see the phrase “wild Friday night” spread across various platforms when they are sharing what they have planned for their Friday evening. More often than not, many people aren’t heading out for the evening and opting to stay at home to catch up on something they’ve missed on TV or taking advantage of their time off from work. So in today’s post I’m asking, why are we hiding behind this phrase no matter how we choose to spend our evening? 

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Being almost twenty-seven, I have never been someone who was out every weekend. In fact, my nights out are far and few between but admittedly, when I do go out, I enjoy myself. I will happily admit to friends and even did so a few weeks ago, I regret saying yes at first and dread going out, but once I’m in the flow of the evening, I’m glad I went. To some, that may sound rude but the friend I was telling at the time knew what I meant and we’re pretty open with how we feel, so I felt comfortable being upfront with him.

When I was younger, I didn’t go out very much either. I have never been a drinker so that certainly played a part in invitations but that’s something I only struggled with in my late teens and it didn’t bother me too much. What I know now as anxiety, is what riddled me when I did get invited out on nights out. I worried about every little thing from what I was going to wear, what if I got mugged and couldn’t get home, what if I lost my friends and what if something happened to me. My brain would go into overdrive and I believe that’s where my feelings of dread still come from to this day.

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We’re so used to a traditional Friday night being a night where you get dressed up, head out into town and let go of the work week but I believe we’re slowly starting to change the perception of the weekend. It’s not that nights out aren’t becoming less common but we’re becoming more open about what brings us happiness when it comes to our days off.

So why are we making a joke about what makes us happy? Is it because it may not fit into that traditional idea we grew up believing or that has possibly come from the influence of television and film? I know I have probably said this quite a few times I the past in real life and on social media, and I’m not sure why. I’ve never been one to want to fit in and as much as we say that being normal is boring, I truly believe that there is no such thing as normal. Are we heading the other direction to try and not be normal, when in reality, there is no such thing as normality? This could be the battle that we’re facing and we might not even know it.

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A “Wild Friday Night” is very much like “Monday Syndrome” in my eyes. It’s a mindset that we become stuck on and it can be very hard to change our attitude on it so we hide behind it instead because we’ve never challenged it before. So; whether your perfect Friday night is heading out with friends in your local bar, sitting in with some popcorn and a film or going to bed early to catch up on sleep you missed, it’s still your Friday night regardless with no need to label it.

How do you like to spend your Friday night? How much do you value your evenings at home and how important do you believe nights out with your friends and family are? Let me know over on my Twitter or my Instagram, I’d love to hear your thoughts. 

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SS: Sunday Saves (#85) Affirmations.

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Good morning all and welcome back to my first Sunday Saves of February! This week I’ll be discussing affirmations and recently, this has become quite a powerful tool that I’m incorporating into my mindset and because of this, I wanted to explore it more and open it up to anyone who has ever been interested in finding out more about this technique.

1) Tiffany Nicole Forever (Affirmation Mindset – How To Create A Mindset Equipped For Affirmation Manifestation)

A post to get us started on this subject is this one from Tiffany Nicole. I know when I first read it, I remember thinking back to when I first heard about affirmations a few years ago, and this is what I came across. I heard positive and negative things from other people online and I wasn’t too sure how to implement this into own life. Coming back a few years later and researching further into this practice, it is very uplifting and quite freeing and using Tiffany’s post, she gives you a brief overview on how exactly affirmations can work if you put the work in.

2) Axtschmiede (The Power of Repeated Affirmations)

“You can expect something to change over night.” We’ve all heard that phrase, right? That’s exactly how affirmations work. You can’t just say something positive and have it happen straight away. This post from Axtschmiede explains just that; affirmations are a tool to looking at life from a different perspective and if you’ve spent half of your life thinking negativity, you won’t just change that in a day or even in a week. Your choice of words and phrases as well as your subconscious mind are all talked about in this post, which I think is essential if you want to look deeply into this practice in order to understand how and why you want something to change.

3) Tampa Bay Mom’s Blog (How I Used Positive Affirmations To Overcome My Negative Thoughts)

Diana’s story is very relatable because all of us can remember when negative thoughts either get in our way or tell us that we can’t do something. I loved reading her story because not only did her negative thoughts affect her, they also affected her son and I believe that’s something that we don’t think about enough. Our attitudes, our mindset, our perspective on life, it can start to rub off on those around us but it’s never too late to make a change, especially if you want it to.

4) Ellie K (12 Positive Affirmations for 2018)

I wanted to add Ellie’s post into this post because she can give you a few ideas on what affirmations look like and how you can cater them to part of your life you want to improve on. “I start a new chapter every day”. Let’s take this for example; this could be for a fitness goal, starting work on a new project, wanting to have a better morning routine or simply trying to be more forgiving towards yourself so you give yourself a fresh slate every day. Affirmations really can be anything you want them to be depending on how you want them to positively change your life.

5) I Take Success (Power of The Sticky Note)

Last but not least, I want to finish on this post by Stacey. I personally like to say my affirmations out loud during a meditation to weave them into my thought process but everyone will work differently. Some people might not want to do that so she gives quite a simple piece of advice, write it on a sticky note and have that near you to remind you of your mindset. Whether that be on your fridge, on your favourite coffee cup, on your computer desk or you could even do it as a background on your phone (even though it’s not really a sticky note at that point); it’s all about that constant reminder and keeping it in your head.

I hope you enjoyed reading today’s blog post, I really love my new style and format to this series because I’m coming for all different angles on the same subject, but if you have any feedback for me, please don’t hesitate to find me on the socials to let me know. 

SS: Sunday Saves (#48)

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Good morning and I hope you’re having a great Sunday so far! I can barely believe it’s almost the end of April already! I feel like I was just blogging about Christmas not too long ago. Anyway, we’re two Sunday Saves away from the big 50 which I can’t quite believe either, but it’s such a lovely series to do, and if you haven’t caught up with it yet, you can click here and you’ll be taken to every single post in the series so far.

Today I’m talking about the emotional connection we all seem to have to Monday’s, how to overcome digital distractions and the six stages of procrastination

1) What Gemma Did (Monday Motivation: Mondays Don’t Suck)

If you think Monday’s suck and it is your most hated day of the week; one, you need to change your mindset completely and two, you need to read Gemma’s post on why Monday’s aren’t the worst after all. She makes some really good points about putting the actual day into perspective and how it can be seen as a fresh start for you and your goals. I can be quite guilty of treating Monday as “Ugh, not again” but even I’m working on trying to flip my perspective on that.

2) Thirteen Thoughts (How To Overcome Digital Distractions)

Digital distractions are the worst especially when you need to work online to get your work done. Paula gives us a few recommendations on what to do when you’re getting distracted by fifty browser tabs (Okay, maybe not 50, but a lot of browser tabs!) or maybe you can’t stop looking at your phone because it keeps going off every two seconds. I especially love her app recommendation so I think I might have to give that a go, it sounds quite adorable (and productive, obviously!).

3) Artsy Teen Blog (The 6 Stages of Procrastination)

Maya’s post is so on point! She talks about the six stages of procrastination and I couldn’t agree more. You’ll have to read her post for yourself to see what they are, but even the little illustrations are so cute!

Well that’s all for this week’s post. Thank you for reading and if you have any thoughts on the posts, make sure to leave some comments on their blogs and spend the love! ❤

Spreading positivity with Itty Bitty Book Co!

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When I first started my blog, I never imagined I would be talking about my mental health, I thought my blog would just be a place to talk about nail polish, lifestyle and my beauty empties. Here I am though, in a community that talks loud and often about issues that affect them, mental health being one and because it’s such a true reflection of me, it makes me proud to write my blog and share some of the experiences that I have had in my life so far.

Positivity is a word that I see every day on Twitter and Instagram and hear in almost every podcast I listen to. I think positivity and negativity both have their place in life, but today I’m focusing on positivity. I am very happy to be teaming up with the Itty Bitty Book Company for, what will hopefully be, a long partnership of spreading happiness throughout the web, Northern Ireland and the world!

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Who are Itty Bitty Book Co? As you may or may not know, I live in Northern Ireland and Itty Bitty are based here too. They make all their products here and they were established in 2013. I’ll not give you their whole back story when they do a much better job to telling it over on their website, but I want to tell you about one of my favourite quotes from their website (which is available in print form here! )and what it means to me.

“Believe in yourself and all that you are, know that something inside of you is greater than any obstacle”

I think a lot of us are held back by ourselves; our worries, our fears and our self-doubt. Now yes, some of us might even be held back by other people but ultimately when it all boils down to delving into our deepest fears and what we worry about, it comes within ourselves. This quote to me tells me that we all have our negative moments and negative thoughts but if you work on yourself continuously, you can come out on top of that negativity and win. Whether that be on your own, with a friend, with a family member, with a therapist, with a group; if you work through your emotions and go in deeper as to why you feel the way you do, you build up a relationship with yourself that will be harder to break as time goes on.

This won’t happen over night, this won’t happen by saying one quote every day for a year, that’s not what I’m getting at at all. You can defeat anything, you just have to believe in yourself. Belief is much more stronger sense than people give it credit for.

I’m really looking forward to taking part in the #PositivityTakeover (and I’ve just ordrered their little cards which you can find right here!) and all the other campaigns with Itty Bitty too! I have included affiliate links throughout this post as I am a Itty Bitty Ambassador.

(Photography credit goes to Sera from The Style Guide Blog)

#ItsTheLittleThings

If you follow me on Twitter, you will have seen me use this very hashtag. But why? 

Lately I haven’t had the strongest mental health days and I’ll be the first one to admit that sometimes it’s hard to accept that. We all struggle sometimes but I fully acknowledge that I haven’t been okay. I use Twitter as an outlet and I sometimes just believe that it’s just me that sees my tweets but in reality, I know that’s not true.

How comfortable am I using a public forum saying how I feel? I wouldn’t call it comfortable; I have people in my “real life” who see it, I have complete strangers who don’t know anything about me see it  and I have those that I became friendly with via Twitter who see it. Is that daunting? Absolutely.

Everyone deals with their own situations differently; some people hold everything in, some talk about every single emotion they have, some talk about extremely hard times while others only talk about the good times in their life. To each their own; I talk about good times but I don’t go into detail about the bad times. I feel like I’m a good balance in between all of those I listed.

So back to my original point, what is #ItsTheLittleThings? It’s a hashtag that I use when the little things in my life make me feel better. It can be anything from a great gym session to just making a cup of tea. Yes, even a cup of tea.

I’m not saying that every time I use it I’m having a terribly bad day; I simply use it for own mental health, good and bad, and when you find something that works for you, I believe you should embrace it ❤

“Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.” – Henry David Thoreau