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Hello there! ❤ I'm Victoria, also known as RetroSnowflakes. Welcome to my blog! I like tea, nail polish, candles and I'm learning more about the world each and every day 😊

My Solo Experience With A Personal Trainer.

As a woman being very interested in fitness, I realised I hadn’t shared my one and only experience of having a personal trainer. It was around three years ago so I wasn’t as knowledgeable about fitness as I am now but I was willing to give it a go. That’s what today’s post is all about. 

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I had been at the gym for around a year and a half at this point and I wasn’t very close to the weights section at all. I was into cardio more than anything else; I had spent a year before I started going to the gym, working out in front of my TV so the cardio was nothing new but I wasn’t exactly pushing myself out of my comfort zone. I wasn’t on the look out for a personal trainer but up popped a post on my news feed from a new training facility that had opened up a few miles away from me and to celebrate the opening, they were offering a discount. It worked out that it was only costing £10 for four sessions, which I thought was a bargain so I signed up. 

The woman who was my personal trainer was nice but was a little forward with me. We went through my diet and she seemed impressed with the majority of it; at this time I wasn’t vegan or vegetarian but I was gluten free and that limited my options severely. Now, I might not have known a lot about nutrition back then but even I knew that telling me that I shouldn’t eat carbs after 7pm was silly. I was still living at home so by the time I finished work, went to the gym and got home, it was after that time. I was told that the best meal for me would be chicken and vegetables. I wasn’t too overweight at that point and I simply wanted to lose a few pounds, so I wasn’t looking to drop a few stones. I still thought that the plain boring meal was excessive, I didn’t think that would work. 

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Our first training session was very different but I didn’t expect anything less because I had never done a personal training session before. We started off with our warm-up of course and then we had a mix of cardio and weights. That wasn’t a problem; the problem I had was the heaviness of the weights. I know when something is too heavy and these were, but she told me that I wasn’t used to them. I woke up sore the next day, and the next, and the next. It got to the stage where I couldn’t keep my arm straight for over a week, it really hurt and I had to walk around my office looking as if I was wearing an invisible bandage. I sent her a message a few days afterwards saying that I was really sore and I was told that I wasn’t used to the weights and it would be fine.  

I was dreading our second session to say the least, and I don’t remember a lot about it. I remember complaining about my arm and I really couldn’t believe that it was “getting used to the weight” I felt as if it was really hurt. I think we lowered the weights slightly but it was really tough. I also remember her asking me what I was going to have for dinner that evening and I said I was thinking of having sweet potato and even before I finished the sentence, she came out with “Oh no no, no carbs after seven, remember?” That infuriated me and I said that I would have some vegetables instead, but I think I went home and had sweet potato anyway. Again, I woke up the next day and the day after that, sore as ever. I sent her a message on Facebook letting her know that I didn’t think personal training was right for me so I wouldn’t be keeping up the sessions and she seemed fine about it. I had paid for the four sessions but I didn’t mind losing the other £20 because the pain I was in, was not worth the money to keep going. 

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This entire experience put me off personal training for a long time. I didn’t like being given a limited diet to eat off, can you imagine if I had have been more naïve and stuck to it for a long time? What if I really thought that carbs after 7pm doesn’t work? It’s scary to think that information like this is being put out there. I also didn’t like being in that much pain, and believe me, from my very few weight exercises I had done in the gym back then, I knew the difference between brief muscle pain and pushing it too far pain.  

I believe the majority of personal trainers are out there to do good, I really do. I have been to a number of different group classes with different PT’s and they have been great but there are a small majority of trainers out there who are giving out horrible advice and that could put a dampener on the good guys. If you are interested in going to a personal trainer, my main advice would be do your research first! Find testimonials, read their reviews, find out about the work that they do (to see if it fits your goals) and consider their pricing (to see if it fits with your budget). A cheap offer might be convenient but is it too good to be true?  

I’m not against personal trainers at all and I believe the majority do fantastic work but if it is something you are very interested in, I don’t believe it’s something you can just find online in a few minutes. I hope you’ve enjoyed today’s post and if you have any experiences like this (or good ones too!) then pass them onto me because I’d love to give them a read. 

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My Interest In Learning British Sign Language.

Learning British Sign Language is something I have been interested in doing for quite a while, but I never knew where to start. With English being my only language, I’ve found it hard as I grow older to latch onto a new language. I studied French for five years when I was in school and over the last year, I’ve been trying my hand at learning Irish too. There’s something about sign language that I’ve always been fascinated in because it’s more about the physical action rather than the verbal words. In today’s post, I’m going to explain why I want to learn sign language and where the fascination began. 

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I first discovered sign language on the TV, I would say like many others did. It was on during some of the later shows at nights on the BBC and I could never watch the programme without looking at the signer. Later on, I was in Brownies (as part of the Girl Guides) and we had a signer come in one evening to teach us letters and well known phrases. Ever since then, I can sign my name and I’m really surprised I can remember it, but it’s something that has stuck with me ever since. 

I absolutely love languages and I believe they are wonderful ways to connect with someone whether they have joined your workplace or your local group or even if you’re in a different country; it’s a nice feeling to be able to speak a little of the local language. As I mentioned, I studied French and had a go at Irish but I found it very overwhelming to remember everything and I started to think that maybe learning a new language isn’t for me. However, I had the urge to learn sign language and what attracted me was the fact that the physical action was more important. I have always been the type of learner who remembers something by “doing” rather than “reading” and I think I have always done this. There’s no wrong way to learn anything but because this is the physical rather than having to remember the spelling, the pronouns and the grammar, I am a little more confident with it. 

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Apart from coming across it briefly television; I also found myself on shoots working with those who use sign language and we often would work with an interpreter in these cases too. It amazed me how fast the signer was but that all comes with practice. It made me realise that we still don’t see enough of it happening around Belfast or in the media in general and I would love to see it pop up more often. I have been at a few conferences where I have seen a signer and I believe that at the latest Belfast Pride event this year, there was a signer on stage so we are getting there, slowly but surely. 

Unfortunately, while I have been doing my research on courses especially around Belfast; to even learn on a basic level, it is quite expensive and that’s what puts me off doing one of the courses. I understand why the pricing is the way it is; it’s everything to do with the course material, the tutor themselves, so I do understand. I just wish it was more accessible to those of us who can’t afford to spend a few hundred pounds learning the basic level. 

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Currently, I have the British Sign Language book for Dummies which is very lengthy but it’s a very easy read. I’d love to join a local group or even meet up with someone learning the language too so we could help each other that, so that’s my next research task. (So if you know of someone, send them my way!) 

I’d be really interested to know if you use sign language or if you ever have, what was your experience? Do you have any tips or advice on how to get started? Thank you so much for reading today’s post, I really do appreciate it! 

KeepCup Brew Cork Edition: Review.

If you follow me on social media, you’ll know that there will rarely be a day that I’m without my beloved reusable cup. I thought it would be quite apt to do a review on my KeepCup Brew from the Cork edition because there are more people turning to a reusable cup of many shapes and sizes and it’s always nice to see a review from a genuine user; the good and the bad of course. Before we begin I wanted to make it clear that I’m not being paid to say this (but let’s be honest, I wouldn’t take money to say something in particular) and KeepCup are not collaborating on this post, it’s simply to let you know what my experience has been (but if KeepCup read this and see that I’m a massive fan, then I’ll have struck gold!) 

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To those who don’t know who or what KeepCup is, there are a brand that started in Australia but now have warehouses there, the UK and in Los Angeles so they are becoming more accessible across the globe. They are a reusable cup company that, since 2009 have sold over eight million cups and are now available in sixty-five countries. I’ll not give you their full bio in this post but if you’re interested in reading up about their story, it’s linked here. 

As explained in the title, my cup is from the Cork series and I first came across it online but it wasn’t until I popped into a local yoga studio that I came across it in real life. (I wrote a post about making small changes to your lifestyle for the environment which I’ll link here and I talk a little more about where I got it from, if you’re local to Belfast) I absolutely fell in love with the fact it was glass and it looked very minimal too. While the choice of cup may seem like it was for vanity reasons, I would say you would be half right. Of course it looked pretty but it was important to me as a green tea drinker to be able to see the process of my tea bag. It sounds strange but when you drink green tea, depending on what flavour and brand you get, it can be really hard to see if it’s strong enough yet.  

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Coming onto the pros of the product, there are quite a few and it’s genuinely because they are key points that I find make them stand out from everyone else.  

One size or one look doesn’t fit all. 

We all like our own individuality and this range of cups is the perfect combination for everyone.  Whether you’re like me and love the glass look or you are looking for a colourful plastic cup instead, there really is something for everyone. There are also many different sizes; I have the large which holds 16oz or 454ml (because there’s nothing better than a big cup of tea) and there’s even a size that you could use for your child too, when they get to the appropriate age, of course. We also need to discuss the colour range because it’s massive; from the lids, the plugs, the holders (if you’re not going with cork) and the cups themselves (if you’re not going with clear plastic or glass). I currently have three lids and three plugs, all different colours of course. 

You can design your own. 

If you’re not feeling any of the pre-prepared cups on offer, that’s absolutely fine. On the website, you can custom make your own cup to your own taste with the wide range of cup styles, lids, plugs and bands available. It may work out slightly more expensive to do this but when I tried to customise a small brew cup, it worked out the same price so it might be worth figuring out what would be the cheaper option. 

If anything goes wrong, you don’t have to replace the entire cup. 

A few months ago, I started to get a strange mark on the mouth part of my lid and it started to bother me. I’m not sure what caused it, whether I was biting down on it by accident but I wanted a new lid. I was easily able to replace the lid for a small price and with seventeen colours to choose from, you can guarantee that it didn’t just take me a minute or two to choose which one. I bought myself three lids altogether all with additional plugs too, so it makes it easier to leave one to clean and you’re not suddenly stuck to clean it right away if you only have the one lid. 

It’s easy to carry around and it’s easy to clean. 

I’m not one for a small handbag; you’ll usually find me with a decent sized black handbag or a backpack so for my two most used bags, my large cup fits in both. That’s what I judge a bag on now, because what would be the point in having a bag that doesn’t fit my cup? As for cleaning, a quick minute does it really. As long as I take the cork off mine, I haven’t noticed it wearing down yet. I know it will at one stage but it’s easy enough to buy another one. 

Many coffee shops carry their own special Keep Cups. 

If you pop into Café Nero, Clements Coffee or Ground Coffee; there’s even a coffee shop in Banbridge called The Copper Lab that have their own, you’ll find that they have their own special versions of the cup with their logo on it. So, if you’re out and don’t want to wait on the post to deliver you one, you can grab on then and there. 

Nothing is perfect and it’s the same with reusable cups so while there aren’t the same amount of cons as there were with pros, there are still a few. 

It doesn’t hold heat for long. 

I would say it stays warm for the maximum of about an hour but you wouldn’t get much more from that. Some people aren’t looking for that, but I would say a lot of people are. At first, especially with the glass cup, it’s very hot and I normally let it cool for about ten minutes before I start drinking it so it is hot, it just doesn’t stay hot. 

It’s not leak-proof. 

I don’t think they have ever defined themselves as a leak-proof cup to be fair but if that’s something you’re looking for in a reusable cup then I wouldn’t recommend this particular brand. It’s more for the “here and now” drink rather than “here and some later” drink.  

This last point isn’t a pro or a con, I would say it’s somewhere in the middle because for me, it’s not an issue but for those who are more conscious about the money side, it may be a deterrent. 

The price point. 

The prices start at £7 for an extra small (perfect for those children’s drinks or an espresso) and grow from there. I can’t exactly remember how much mine was, I have a feeling it was around £21/£22 which for a glass cup, I didn’t think was unreasonable. The glass is the most expensive cup understandably starting at £14 for a small which holds 8oz or 227ml so if you are looking for affordability, I would suggest looking at the plastic range which starts from £8 (excluding the extra small size). 

Would I recommend it? 

If you can’t tell, I would highly recommend getting yourself a Keep Cup. While I only have one version of the cup, I’m not sure what the leakage and heat is like for the other styles, but if you’re looking for something that is leak-proof, this isn’t the cup for you. However, if you want something that remains minimal but stands out and is easy to transport and clean, I think this would be the perfect addition. If you don’t drink hot drinks and are more an iced tea or coffee person, I would still recommend it. I often have my iced coffee in mine and it’s still great (and I even add in a metal or paper straw too). 

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I hope my review has given you a better insight into this particular Keep Cup. I believe any reusable cup is a great additional to your tea or coffee usage especially if you are an avid drinker like myself. I’ve lost count of how many disposable cups I haven’t needed to use because of it and on the odd occasion I am out without my cup, I feel very odd using a disposable. If you have any reviews of any reusable cups, please send them my way. 

What I Learned About Myself During Unemployment: Reflections (Part Two)

In my last post (which is linked here) I talked about the negatives that I faced when I entered into unemployment during the Summer. Thankfully today’s post is slightly more upbeat with the positive things I learned about myself during this period so that’s what I’ll be discussing in this post. 

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As in my last post relating to this subject, I talked about how I have learned so much but I wanted to talk more in depth about the four most important lessons I have taken away from this.

I exercised more.

Exercise has been a huge part of my life for quite a few years; I’ve been a part of a gym for about six years and I’ve been participating in yoga for around two or three years (but that has dropped off the radar for me as I explained in this particular post). As well as becoming a runner too, I like to think I am an active person and I knew that this was the perfect time to get as much exercise in as I could. Now, I didn’t go every day and I wasn’t running as much as I could have, but to have the freedom to go to the gym or for a run at any time of the day, was quite nice. I started riding my bike more that my Dad’s wife gave me so that gave me the freedom to cycle further than I would probably walk or run realistically. I also fell in love with HIIT workouts (which I’ll link here) and that’s added lots of variety to my gym workouts which has given me a new boost of life in terms of exercise. 

I became more focused on my writing.

I realised I was able to become more focused on my blog for this period. I don’t plan to take blogging full-time but it was nice to be able to sit down for what felt like a full work day once a week, and plan out blog posts in a calm space. I usually wrote two in one day which is quite something for me and because I was in a different environment rather than my house, I felt more creative and it enabled me to write more. 

I realised it was a blessing in disguise.

I was told that “it could be a blessing in disguise” by quite a few people and I wasn’t sure if they were right. I very soon after that realised they were right because I realised I needed the break. I took holidays from my job just like everyone does but I never felt like I was on holiday. I felt the constant worry that I hadn’t planned something right or that I hadn’t done enough before I went off on my leave. Once I didn’t have any of that to worry about, that constant anxiety went away and I guess I didn’t realise how much of an impact it was truly having until I didn’t have it anymore. I gave myself time to adjust to the changes and once I knew, I was well and truly adjusted, I was able to work in small changes to my life when I did feel stressed, knowing that I would be able to handle it whenever I did get overwhelmed again. That included bringing meditation back in after not doing it for a while, journaling with daily affirmations and listening to podcasts instead of music. 

I had time to figure out what I wanted for the future.

It also gave me time to think about what I wanted to do with my career; being in the mid-to-late twenties is definitely a weird time because I feel like I’m running out of time even though I know I have at least forty more work years ahead of me. For that reason, I think it’s okay not to know completely what I want to do but the break has helped me look into future education plans that may help me further down the road. 

I’ve learned so much during this period of my life, good and bad but these were the main points I wanted to cover because they were the most powerful to me and I thought they would be relatable to someone going through something similar. Thank you so much for reading today’s post, I really appreciate it! 

July to September Reflections and October to December Goals (2018)

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We’re now in the last quarter of the year which means it’s time to look back at my goals from the past three months and to set myself some new goals for the next three. I spoke about changing my perspective with New Year’s Resolutions back in January so I wanted to play around with three month goals instead.   

(Number One) Write a “Top Three Tasks” list every day. 

For the start of the month of July, I tried this and it was a beneficial way of dealing with being at home more than usual but as I struggled to cope with the different change of pace, this slid. However, now I write myself a “Three Great Things” list almost every day. I don’t beat myself up if I dont’ do it every day and I guess you could call it a gratitude list, but it’s just a nice reminder of three things you may have done to brighten up the day. 

(Number Two) Be satisfied with my home. 

This one was difficult and I’m still not satisfied. You know when you have so many tasks to do around the house that it becomes overwhelming and you feel like you’re never going to get them done? That’s the feeling I constantly had but over time, when I had completed a certain task, I have been able to feel happy that I got something done rather than nothing. It’s an aim that I will still have in my head until every nook and cranny in my house is to my standards. 

(Number Three) Practice “good for them” rather than being negative towards myself. 

Admittedly, I wasn’t good at this. I wouldn’t say I was jealous but I felt like everything was feeling down around me at once and so in turn, it was hard to be happy for those that had really great things happening for them. I know how horrible it sounds but it’s quite hard when you’re in a situation like that yourself and you see lots of good things happening for others but it seems to be the opposite effect for you. It’s something I’m constantly working on but it’s not one that can change overnight. 

I wasn’t successful at my goals this month but instead of beating myself up for it, I don’t mind too much. It’s shown me exactly what I need to work on and that’s still progress, right? So, what’s in store for the next three months? 

(Number One) Run a 5K in under 30 minutes. 

I’m very passionate about this one because I am so close to this goal! My closest to this has been 30:02 so I’m only two seconds off achieving this. At the minute, I’m not too concerned about my timing for runs; it’s more about simply running, but I’m hoping to smash this goal by the end of the year so I can set myself a new target for the new year. 

(Number Two) Refresh my wardrobe. 

I’m not what you would call stylish nor do I have what people refer to as “style” and I really don’t mind that. I’m a jeans and t-shirt woman but it’s something that I want to venture out of slightly and the first step into doing this is having a complete wardrobe refresh by getting rid of clothing using the Kon-Mari method. I have already started reading this book so I’ll be using it throughout this process. 

(Number Three) Incorporate the two-minute rule more into my daily routine. 

Not washing the dishes straight after I have used them or not making the bed before I leave the house in the morning are my two biggest habits that I want to stop doing. Simply because they’re both really easy to do and both can work easily within the two-minute rule. Can it be done in two minutes or under? Then surely it’s easier to do it then and there rather than wait until later. These are only two examples but I’m sure many more could come to mind.  

 Let me know what you think of goals; are you more of a New Year’s Resolutions person that focuses on all year-round goals or do you like to split them up like me? ❤

What I Learned About Myself During Unemployment: Reflections (Part One)

This past Summer, I was made redundant and I learned quite a lot about myself during this period of unemployment, positives and negatives. I’ve decided to split this post up into two parts so today’s post will concentrate on the negatives and the next post (which I’ll link here when it’s live!) will focus on the more positive notes.

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In terms of my work history, the only other time I have been unemployed was for a period of about three months from when I finished college and when I started my previous job, but because this is under different circumstances, this is very different. I’m not used to having so much time on my hands and as much as I used to say “Oh, I don’t have time to do everything I want” you’d think that I would absolutely love having all the time in the world to do all my tasks. I had so much I wanted to do but because I had so much going on in not only my head but externally, anxiety kicked in and the first few weeks that I was off, I struggled to get out of bed if I didn’t have something planned for that day.

Instead of running you through every single thing that I learned (because we’d be here for a while) I thought I would talk you through the four most important things I have taken away from this experience. More importantly, what exactly I have learned about myself:

I became more attached to my relationship. 

I’ve been in my current relationship for almost a year and a half but at the beginning of the relationship, I was very straight with the fact that I wasn’t planning on seeing my boyfriend all the time. When I moved out on my own, I became very independent and I didn’t want anyone to take that away from me. Not that I think having a boyfriend takes your independence away of course, but I didn’t want to feel like I was constantly leaning on someone because I thought that I didn’t need to. Since I found out about my redundancy, I started to see Scott on a daily basis and while he doesn’t mind at all, it’s something that I noticed straight away and I wasn’t happy about it. I love seeing him but going from someone who was okay with seeing her boyfriend a few times a week to feeling vulnerable on a daily basis and needing that comfort, was really hard for me to grasp. I felt like I was turning into someone that I didn’t want to be. My self-confidence had taken a turn and it wasn’t all to do with my career, it was a build-up of other personal life issues.

My sleep routine went out the window. 

I had prided myself on working on the perfect sleep routine for the last few months and it was going perfectly. I had really worked on it because it’s not so easy to go to sleep at 10pm from someone who for years had went to bed between midnight and 2am. But then I didn’t have something to go to every day, I made plans but I didn’t have daily plans that meant I had to be up early each morning so that made it so much easier to fall back into my old ways, it was too easy in fact. In turn, it’s also made it hard to fall asleep, something which I have never had to deal with. I can fall asleep at the drop of a hat; whether that’s on the sofa, on a bus or in the cinema so for me not to fall asleep as soon as my head hit the pillow, was very odd.

I REALLY struggled with the bad days. 

The bad days were really bad days and I struggled dealing with them at first. It began months before when I struggled getting out of bed for work but now that I didn’t have that, it was a cycle of sitting up in bed and my head telling me that I couldn’t do it, so I lay back down. That routine happened quite a lot the first month. Over the course of the second month, I gave myself one day a week to let myself do nothing and I didn’t feel as guilty anymore because I had scheduled it. I still get my bad days but they aren’t as bad as they used to be because I know how to handle them now.

The realisation of how much I depended on a plan. 

I have always been a planner and all three of my previous are based on this particular point; I realised that I depended on a plan so much more than I thought. I’m not the spontaneous type; I like to know where I’m going, who I’m going with and what we are doing in advance, it’s the type of person I have always been. I try to “go with the flow” but I don’t believe it’s in my human nature (or maybe it is and I’m not willing to change). Not having a plan prompted me to become more attached to my boyfriend, to fall into an unhealthy sleep routine and have constant bad days; all because I didn’t plan ahead. It all makes sense doesn’t it? I like to know what I’m doing and if I don’t, then I worry that I have wasted the day because I didn’t fit in an activity or two. That then leads me to feel like I failed and I need comforted, so it’s no surprise that I felt extremely overwhelmed with the extreme change.

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Thankfully over these last few months, I have become much better at changing all four of these points. I no longer depend on my boyfriend as much (even though I can’t stay away too long from his amazing dinners), I now get myself up early no matter how late I stay awake and even if I lay in bed, I’m still awake. I still have the odd bad day but I find them easier to combat if I give myself small things to do and making a plan is now second nature to me again because I love planning out my week on a Sunday to make sure I at least have a few things going on during that week. Having something to look forward to; whether it’s my coffee shop day, a planned run or even going out for food shopping, it’s something that has really helped me mentally.

Thank you for reading today’s post, it’s a situation that I’m glad in the end, I was put in because it’s given me a lot of time to think and I believe that’s what I truly needed.  

Choosing What To Share About Your Mental Health Online.

Aah, mental health. It’s possibly one of the most talked about subjects in the last couple of years yet it still isn’t talked about enough, how can that be possible, right? I definitely don’t talk about it as much as I should in real life, but have I found the right balance for the online world? Let’s talk about how we decide on choose what to share about the subject on social media in today’s post. 

With the evolution of sociaI media, I believe a majority of society are over-sharers (myself included) and living in an online world certainly hasn’t helped that perception but with outlets to tell your friends what’s going on, to tell strangers your problems and to share with the world what you had for breakfast; is it really that shocking that we feel like everyone is living a lie? I’ll be the first to say I love posting on Instagram; from my running progress, the foods that I am loving to what I’ve been getting up to that week. I’ve been a tweeter since 2010 and with almost 50,000 tweets, I love talking nonsense sometimes so I definitely count myself as an over-sharer from time to time. 

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Take a look at my latest Instagram feed for example, what do you see? You see gorgeous plates of food, fresh manicures, gorgeous skies and spending time with my boyfriend. In that timeline, you don’t see me struggling to get out of bed until mid-afternoon one day because I’m worried about the future. You don’t see me sitting by the phone waiting for that phone call telling me whether I got a job offer and you don’t see me having a good Sunday morning and then suddenly getting hit with very sore cramps that caused me to lie in bed for most of the afternoon.  

Am I part of the problem? What exactly is the problem that I may or may not be a part of? Is there anything wrong with just sharing the good moments of my life or have we been conditioned to believe that it should be that all-or-nothing attitude of “share the good, bad and ugly or share nothing at all”? The world, online and offline, really isn’t that black and white and I think that’s something we are all struggling with. In real life, I’m not someone to really open up about problems that are bothering me and while that is something that I’m becoming better at, it is still a struggle. I feel like a burden and I don’t want to burden anyone with my problems and that’s much more common than you think. So while I’m all about others talking about their problems, I’m not so open about my own. (Again, am I part of the problem?) 

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At the beginning on 2018, I became very depressed to the point where I cried on the way to work for weeks on end and getting out of bed to go to work was a task in itself. I hated the weekends because I put so much pressure on myself to do everything and when I didn’t, I felt horrible during the week because I didn’t feel good enough. I was very unhappy; nothing I enjoyed doing made me happy anymore and I floated through life for a couple of months feeling completely lost. At the time I questioned why; I had my family and friends, I had my boyfriend, I had a job and I had my own house, I had everything I wanted (or so I thought) so why was I incredibly unhappy? Yet on social media, you probably wouldn’t have picked up on it because it’s not something I wanted to put out there nor was it something that I was trying to hide. Do you see my dilemma? Just because I didn’t put it on social media, doesn’t mean I was trying to hide it but I chose not to put it online so it seems like I was hiding it.  

I don’t think anyone has the authority to tell us what is too much to put online except ourselves. Social media is not the be-all-end-all and I think that’s why so many more people are now having digital detoxes because it can all become too much. Waking up and scrolling through other people’s lives can become your daily habit if you make it that. Comparing yourself to someone else can become something you do on a regular basis if you’re constantly picking up the phone and looking at yourself in a negative light because someone else is doing something different than you through the other side of the screen.  

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We can all handle social media in a much healthier way if we recognize that it isn’t all pretty rainbows and sunshine. Next time you look at someone’s social media accounts, remember that they’re not putting out every single thing about their life; they’re not always putting out the bad and they certainly don’t put every single great thing either. If you can’t handle what someone is sharing, don’t look and I know that’s easier said than done. The great thing about most social media platforms now is that we can mute people, so you’re making the active decision to not look at their content and unless you physically go to their profile, you won’t see it. If it helps your mood and overall mindset, then you’re doing something right. 

This is a post that I’ve been thinking about for a while and it’s been really hard for me to write exactly what I want to say because this is such a broad subject, it can be easy to fall down the rabbit hole, can’t it? I hope it made sense because it’s something we all need to think about and it’s also something that we need to protect ourselves from, whenever it‘s necessary.