SS: Sunday Saves (#72)

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Hello everyone, Happy Sunday! It’s quite chilly this morning so a very large cup of tea and a big bathrobe is needed. I hope you’ve all had a nice week so far; I’m back with another Sunday Saves where I highlight three posts that I’ve read through the week that I think you should be reading too. I’ll be talking about things you get excited about as an adult, unfollowing people online and talking about your faith.

1) The Curvaceous Vegan (10 Things You Get Excited About When You’re An Adult)

The way I talk about new bedding is the way I used to talk about new Barbie dolls as a child. Amie talks about things we get really excited about as an adult, bedding being one of them and I couldn’t agree more.  Also, who doesn’t love being a fresh new cooking pot or taking a trip to IKEA? Such a relatable post.

2) PageTwentyFour (Why You Should Begin Unfollowing)

Over the last few months, I’ve really looked at who I follow on Twitter and Instagram. I wrote a post about Facebook friendships and deleted so many people I never talk to (You can read it here) In regards to Instagram, I looked at who’s stories I would constantly skip and if I wasn’t interested, I would unfollow them. If I seen a stream of tweets from someone who was either talking about something I didn’t like, I wasn’t interested in or was quite frankly bored of seeing on my feed, I would just unfollow them. Does that make me a horrible person? Of course not, you might feel differently about that, but in my eyes I don’t see the harm if I’m not longer interested in seeing what you have to say. It doesn’t affect you in any way and if someone felt that way about me, I would expect them to do the same. Paige talks about something similar in her post but she talks about it in the aspect of accounts that can affect you negatively and make you feel bad about yourself.

3) Extraordinarily Mundane (Jenny’s Faith Story)

My relationship with faith is an unanswered one. I used to go to Sunday School when I was younger but the only time I go to church is when there is a wedding, a funeral or a christening. I don’t know if I believe that there is a higher power out there but one thing that I’ve noticed while reading blogs and writing them is that I don’t see a lot of people writing about their faith. I came across Jenny’s blog post and while I don’t relate to her story, I thought it was interesting that she was telling her story of how she began to believe in God. So if you’re looking for more bloggers talking about their faith and religion, I would recommend Jenny’s post.

That’s all for this week’s Sunday Saves! I hope you enjoyed and as always, go and give the posts a read if you can, I really think they’re great. And if there are any posts you think I should be reading, tweet me over at @RetroSnowflake 💛

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Three Intentions for Me (#1)

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Good morning, good afternoon or good evening whenever you read this! You might remember in my 58th Edition of my Sunday Saves (which is linked here!) I talked about Sophie’s blog post being about her July to-do list, and I loved the idea! So I decided to base a monthly goals list around that. I’ve named this little mini series “Three Intentions for Me” because for me right now, there is quite a lot of pressure around the word “goals” so I want to minimise that pressure while also pushing myself ever so slightly with particular targets I want to achieve.

❤ Read one fiction and one non-fiction book, and finish them both.

I’m quite a slow reader and this is something that will probably irritate me to no end. I usually read when I’m on my own because it means I can read out loud. I found that when I was reading when I was younger, yes I was fast, but I was skipping words if I couldn’t pronounce them in my head so while I was “reading fast” in my younger years, was I actually reading if I wasn’t taking everything in? Into my adult years, I’ve changed my whole philosophy on reading and it’s been a tough transition especially because I do read out loud the majority of the time, that takes longer and if I can’t pronounce something, I will make sure to say it until I can. It almost sounds like I’m teaching myself to read again, I can read I promise, but I’m putting more energy into it this time around. To add to this, I think this is why I don’t tend to sway into fiction books, I’m more of a self-help book woman myself but I want to challenge myself this coming month. It might seem like a big ask to read two books in one month but I’m willing to push myself to get out of my comfort zone, it will just mean setting more time aside for reading and less time for something else.

 Take part in two Twitter chats.

A year ago, I was so on the ball when it came to Twitter chats. I didn’t take part in too many mind you, but I probably took part in two weekly ones and I always enjoyed it! I use Tweet Deck for my Twitter and even then I felt like I could never keep up because there was so much going on within one chat, so this August, I’m making a commitment to take part in just two to see how I get on.

 Complete the 5K I have signed up for.

August sees the challenge of a 5K run that my boyfriend and I have signed up for towards the middle of August so that means stepping up my training to a certain level and making sure I complete it. Timing to me at the minute isn’t very important, I just want to keep a nice happy pace with minimal walking and I’ll be happy.

I’ll check back in next month’s “Three Intentions for Me” post to update you on how I did, and to tell you what I want to make a priority in September. Have a lovely day! ☀️

SS: Sunday Saves (#41)

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Welcome back to another Sunday Saves, the forty first edition too! This week I’ll be talking about Twitter Chats, feeling lost in your twenties and why saying no isn’t the worst thing in the world. As always, if you’ve missed any of my other Sunday Saves, they’ll all be linked right here!

1. Half Girl Half Teacup (The Problem with Blogging Chats)

I love Twitter chats; they are one of the best ways to connect with so many other bloggers in such a short amount of time. However, they can be a little more stressful than I would like. I use TweetDeck so I set up a separate column to show me all the tweets associated with a certain hashtag but depending on how popular the chat is, I can barely keep up. I don’t agree with all of Jess’ points in her post but I definitely agree with timings; sometimes if I’m even ten minutes late, I think “I’m already late, is there any point?”. In terms of promoting your posts in a chat you’re not taking part in, I can see both sides of the argument. Yes, it’s frustrating as hell but take the example of the #lbloggers chat; for the most part, that’s the first hashtag I’ll use and I don’t mean to promote a post during that chat but it can happen when I’ve scheduled a tweet and I’ve completely forgotten. Twitter chats for the most part are wonderful and I would urge anyone to take part, just prepare to be overwhelmed with masses of tweets!

2. Lauren the Daydreamer (Feeling Lost in Your Twenties)

Oh I had so many expectations for my twenties and I haven’t hit one of them but over time, I’ve come to accept that. My life was so different when I was eighteen and I thought by twenty five, my life was going to be complete and I wasn’t going to be in this limbo I’m currently in. Well, my life couldn’t have turned out any more opposite than that vision. To be fair, when you’re eighteen, you think you have it all figured out (like I thought I did) so I don’t pay too much attention to my past vision of myself but I think it’s always funny to look back and think “Wow, this is not where I thought I would be back then.” I think almost every single person in their twenties goes through this so I like how people like Lauren are normalising feeling completely lost, because it’s so natural and it’s nothing to be afraid of.

3. Liza Tait-Bailey (Saying No Doesn’t Make You A Bad Person)

I think the title of Liza’s post says it all, doesn’t it? I am guilty of this, saying yes to things when I feel like I’ve taken on too much already. This year in particular, I’ve chosen to put myself first and not put myself under too much pressure and I feel like this is exactly what Liza is saying. You’re not the worst person in the world if you can’t do something; sometimes we don’t have the time, sometimes we don’t feel like it or we just simply don’t want to. We live in a society that will never be perfect and therefore, you will never be able to please everyone so if you take on those fifty things that need done for Monday, you probably won’t be thanked for putting yourself under all that stress. Doesn’t seem so worth it now, does it? There are exceptions to every rule of course but sometimes you want to put yourself first and that’s perfectly okay.

That’s all for today’s post! Remember to click everyone’s links because it’s so important to support the blogger community wherever we can plus they’re really great posts.

SS: Sunday Saves (#40)

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Happy Sunday and welcome back to my Sunday Saves! How is it that I’m on my 40th edition of this series AND it’s the middle of February? Time flies when you’re having fun! So if you’re not sure what my Sunday Saves is, it’s a series that I write (almost) every Sunday featuring three blog posts or YouTube videos that I have loved that week. They could be new that week or they could be a year old but I’ve found them that particular week. If you’ve missed any of my other Sunday Saves, you can click here to read them all.

This week I’ll be looking at finding friends online, the story behind one woman’s pregnancy and how to help social anxiety.

1. Hello Sara Lou (Internet Friends)

Reading Sara’s post, I think a lot of us are in her position. We don’t carry many friends on from high school; sometimes that’s a conscious decision and other times people just drift apart. For me, it was a little mix of both. I cut a few people out of my life after high school because I decided I couldn’t be around a negative energy anymore and I just drifted away from others unintentionally. I still talk to a few of my friends from school but it’s maybe once every few years. The online world has been such a huge part of my growth, friendship wise and Twitter has been one of those saints when it comes to friends. I became part of the ‘Community’ community of Twitter and then when I started blogging, I got introduced to a new community, so it’s really lovely to always have people to chat to. I have the same belief as Sara that your online friends can mean just as much as those you know on the outside and I love having that balance between both.

2. Love Libby (Being Pregnant at 19 & Dealing With Miscarriage | TMI Tuesday)

I don’t think I’ve ever cried at a blog post before, not until Libby’s post about her story. She talks in detail about finding out she was pregnant and talks you through their journey up until the very end. It was such a touching post to read a different perspective of pregnancy because not a lot of women talk about miscarriage so in depth so it was a lovely but upsetting read, just have your tissues at the ready.

3. Jessica Leigh CBT (3 Steps for Overcoming Anxiety)

Social Anxiety is something that is becoming more talked about and I couldn’t be happier about it. Not because it’s a nice thing to happen, believe me, there’s nothing worse than feeling like you aren’t in control of your own emotions in a social situation but it’s more to do with the fact that more people are coming out and saying that they are having the same problem. I’m very lucky that I started seeking counselling to help me deal with a number of issues including social anxiety and Jessica has been my counsellor to help me through the barriers I’ve faced recently. We have used these tips in some of our sessions so I can tell you that they have thoroughly helped me through some of my socially anxious moments. It’s not complicated, it’s all about talking to yourself like you would a friend and guiding yourself through a situation (before, during and after) and reevaluating your thoughts on that particular social situation. If you’re struggling with an issue like social anxiety, I’d highly recommend Jessica’s tips.

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That’s all for today’s Sunday Saves! Remember to click on all the links I shared today and if you like them, share them too. You never know who might need to read them right now.

SS: Sunday Saves (#36)

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Happy Sunday and welcome back to my Sunday Saves this week! As usual, if you missed out on any of my Sunday Saves so far, you can click right here and it will magically transport you to all my Sunday Saves!

This week’s theme is social media which includes every single person reading this post so I thought it was very appropriate since we all use it.

1) Skinnedcartree (Resources for Bloggers)

This is the ultimate blogger post. If you’re a blogger, you need to read this, no ifs or buts, you need to. Corrine has posts ranging from editing blog photographs, a Q&A with a PR, how to create a media pack and even tips for starting your own blog. What more could you want?

2) It’s Lauren Victoria (How To Be More Active on Social Media)

Lauren goes through the different social media platforms and offers tips on how you can grow your following on each. She covers Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat and Pinterest so you’re covered on all bases and even tells us how to maintain our activity on these platforms. It means you won’t be taking part in ten million Twitter chats in one day then we hear nothing from you on Twitter for two weeks; you can learn to spread your social activity out a little more.

3) Lottie Does (Why It’s Okay To Unfollow)

I couldn’t agree with Lottie more on this topic. I think there’s such a pressure on Twitter especially to follow the exact same people you did when you first started. People change though; your interests change, your opinions change and if someone doesn’t meet your interests or your opinions then there’s nothing wrong with unfollowing them. It’s nothing against them as such, it’s just you growing and having that be reflected in your choice of who you follow.

Well that’s all for this week’s Sunday Saves! Remember to support fellow bloggers by clicking on their links and leaving them a little comment, we really all do appreciate that.

#ItsTheLittleThings

If you follow me on Twitter, you will have seen me use this very hashtag. But why? 

Lately I haven’t had the strongest mental health days and I’ll be the first one to admit that sometimes it’s hard to accept that. We all struggle sometimes but I fully acknowledge that I haven’t been okay. I use Twitter as an outlet and I sometimes just believe that it’s just me that sees my tweets but in reality, I know that’s not true.

How comfortable am I using a public forum saying how I feel? I wouldn’t call it comfortable; I have people in my “real life” who see it, I have complete strangers who don’t know anything about me see it  and I have those that I became friendly with via Twitter who see it. Is that daunting? Absolutely.

Everyone deals with their own situations differently; some people hold everything in, some talk about every single emotion they have, some talk about extremely hard times while others only talk about the good times in their life. To each their own; I talk about good times but I don’t go into detail about the bad times. I feel like I’m a good balance in between all of those I listed.

So back to my original point, what is #ItsTheLittleThings? It’s a hashtag that I use when the little things in my life make me feel better. It can be anything from a great gym session to just making a cup of tea. Yes, even a cup of tea.

I’m not saying that every time I use it I’m having a terribly bad day; I simply use it for own mental health, good and bad, and when you find something that works for you, I believe you should embrace it ❤

“Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.” – Henry David Thoreau

SS: Sunday Saves (#18)

Happy Sunday! I’m back for another Sunday Saves this week and I’ll start off like every other week; if you haven’t read any of my other posts in this series, click here and you can see what other posts I’ve loved! In this week’s Sunday Saves, I’ll be talking about the gluten free lifestyle, Twitter and not having your life together yet.

1. The British Feather (Week 1: Getting Moving and Gluten Free Testing)

I came across Gemma when I found her on Twitter talking about recently being diagnosed with coeliac disease. If you’ve read my blog for a while, you’ll know that I have a gluten intolerance (I just have to say gluten intolerance is not the same as coeliac disease. Coeliac disease is a lot more serious.) so I was interested in following Gemma’s journey as a newly diagnosed coeliac and how she would get on. In her post, she talks about her first week eating gluten free (although she can’t go completely gluten free until October but if you read her post, she explains why!) and she talks about her fitness journey too. I’m hoping to work out more outside too (like Gemma), so I hope to find a good balance between outside and the gym. I don’t follow many bloggers who have to eat a certain way because of their health so that’s why I’m so glad I found Gemma’s blog.

2. Thrifty Vintage Fashion (The Ultimate List of Hashtags and Retweet Twitter Accounts for Bloggers)

As much as it pains me to say it, I’m not always so up to speed with every single hashtag on Twitter. I used to think I was pretty up-to-date with Twitter; I’ve tweeted over 31,000 times and I’ve had it for about five or so years now, but sometimes I’ll see hashtags and I don’t know what it means. If you sound like me, then you need Nicole Marie’s post. She goes through all the hashtags to do with bloggers and all the re-tweet accounts that you would need to help boost your blog via Twitter. It’s super helpful so if you’re confused by some hashtags like I was, it’s the post for you!

3. A Hearty Home (It’s Okay To Not Have Everything Completely Figured Out Just Yet)

For anyone who feels completely stuck in their life and thinks they’re failing because they haven’t got everything figured out yet, go read Margot’s post. I’m also in my mid-twenties and when I was eighteen, I seen my life look very differently than what it is now. Obviously I’m very glad about how my life has turned out so far but when people ask me, “What’s next?” That could be about moving out of my Mum’s house permanently or what’s the next step in my career, I can’t give them an answer because I’m really not sure. I feel like I should have everything figured out right now and it’s a little frustrating not having the answers to those really important life choices. Margot’s post is relateable and it’s one of those posts I would recommend you bookmark and if you’re feeling freaked out about life, go back and read it, it will make you feel less anxious about your life. I can (almost) guarantee that!

That’s all for this week’s post! And remember, go read all the posts I mentioned and hopefully you’ll discover a blogger you’ve never heard of or seen before.