SS: Sunday Saves (#56)

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Happy Sunday everyone! While I’m writing this, it’s such a gorgeous day outside, always a sure fire way of being in a better mood eh? In today’s post I’ll be talking about cleaning your home and mind, habits of grateful people and being more mindful as a non-vegan.

1) Suzie Speaks (50 Things To Remove From Your Home and Your Life)

Judging by the weather (most of the time), I’d like to think we’re coming into the Summer and one of my favourite things to do during the Summer is do a massive clean. I know a lot of people like to do a Spring clean (in the Spring of course) but for me, it always goes back to when I was in school and you would have a huge clear out before heading back to school in September. Suzie highlights fifty things that you should remove from your home but also from your personal life, so not only are you cleaning your house but you’re also cleaning your mind, to a certain extent.

2) Hack Spirit (The Top 9 Habits Of Grateful People… Even In Tough Times)

If you’ve been reading the blog lately or following me on my social media, you’ll know I have started to get into the practice of gratitude. It’s such an important practice for me especially when my day isn’t going as well as I had hoped it would. Gratefulness brings me back down to earth. That’s what I found so interested about this Hack Spirit blog post about habits of people who are grateful even on the tough days. It’s something we should all take into consideration, both on the good days and the bad.

3) The Zombie Said (5 Simple Ways For Non-Vegans To Help Vegan Causes)

I prefer to call myself plant based rather than vegan because I’m quite open about not having changed all my clothes, make-up, hair care and skincare over to one hundred percent cruelty free. I really liked the way Steph came across in this post, it’s not preachy or forceful, it’s just giving you a few simple tips on how you can be more mindful when it comes to spending your money on products and perhaps promote a positive change if you can’t commit yourself to being vegan.

Well that’s all for today’s Sunday Saves post. If you’d like to catch up on my other Sunday Saves, you’ll find them here and let me know your thoughts on today’s post, either down below or over on my Twitter!

SS: Sunday Saves (#51)

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Happy Sunday! I hope you’re having a lovely weekend so far! So with this week being Mental Health Awareness Week, I thought it was quite suited that my Sunday Saves would be themed around Mental Health. Just to add, there were so many bloggers addressing Mental Health Awareness Week which I think is fantastic and it was so hard to choose just three posts to feature this week.

1) The V Nice Life (High Functioning Depression)

A lot of society have painted depression with one paintbrush stroke but depression can take many forms and Sarah talks about high function depression which she suffers from. I didn’t know a lot about the high functioning side of depression so it’s a fresh perspective on the condition, so if you’re not too sure what exactly it is either, I’d recommend Sarah’s post.

2) Parenting, Pasttimes, Prosecco (Has Mental Health Tested Your Parenting Life?)

Having a mental breakdown has only happened to me once or twice in the past year and I can completely understand where Sarah is coming from. It really is just built up over so long and you become completely uncontrollable. It’s a horrible feeling that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. I think it’s fantastic how Sarah has written about her experience and especially being in her family situation at the minute, she deserves a medal.

3) All About Aoife (YA Mental Health TBR List)

I loved the idea of this post! Aoife has put a list together of the young adult books she’s hoping to read soon but they all have a theme based around mental health. She even gives you a little description of each book too, so you don’t have to go look up each one to find out what it’s about.

Well that’s all from this week’s Sunday Saves! I hope you’ve all had a good week and if you have any posts you think I should read, please tweet me over at @RetroSnowflake.

 

I can’t fake this.

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Normally on a Sunday, I would be sitting here wishing you a lovely day, I would talk you through some of my favourite blog posts I’ve found during the week that have inspired me and everything would be dandy.

Today I can’t do that. I can’t force myself to write a post about inspiring and motivational blog posts when I couldn’t feel any further from that right now.

Yesterday was not a good day for me, emotionally and mentally. The night before, I had such a lovely night with my friend but I sat up an hour before bed in a complete panic with my anxiety sky high. I had no idea what I was worried about, but I was so panicked that I felt like I couldn’t go to bed.

That night I had a horrible dream, well I would say more of a nightmare. It knocked me for six the next morning. I lay in bed for an hour after waking up feeling very teary and very stressed.

I then felt quite ill walking to the gym, I stayed in the gym for ten minutes before I told myself I wasn’t going to feel any better and left.

My FitBit was really low on battery and didn’t pick up my half an hour walk to the gym (or most of the walk back).

I was walking home from going to get groceries and could feel like I was getting a lump in my throat, my breathing was getting heavier all of a sudden and I just wanted to cry. If there wasn’t a queue of cars right down the long road I was walking down, I probably would have.

To top it off, I went into the city centre with my Mum that night; we were heading to a concert and every restaurant we walked into was fully booked so we ended up in Starbucks with two teas even though we were both really hungry.

These may be classed as first world problems and to most people, they might all sound like little problems that aren’t a big deal. I completely understand that there are many horrible and bad things happening in the world right now so I know some will be thinking  “Oh no, you couldn’t go to a restaurant and get fed.” or “Oh no, your expensive tracker didn’t work.” First world problems or not, they had an effect on me. They had a very negative effect on mind, my body and my overall well-being; at times I felt like I was trapped in my own head and my own body and when I wanted to leave, I couldn’t.

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Being true to myself is something I wanted to make a priority in 2017, so that’s what I’m doing. I’m admitting that the world got to me and because of that, I won’t pretend to be in a good mood and tell my readers how posts inspired me or write a post that I don’t feel connected to. Who would that serve? What purpose would that have?  I could fake it and say I’m in such a great mood (but I won’t because I’m not). I could fake it and say ” I loved <insert blog name> because it was so motivating and I can’t wait to try this too (but I won’t because that would be a lie). That won’t help me and pretending that I’m happy and chatty and wonderful just to motivate myself for a blog post certainly won’t help anyone else either.

It’s okay to feel like the world is against you. I thought that and I acknowledge now that the world doesn’t hate me and it’s not trying to make me cry on purpose, but for that moment in time, that’s all I wanted to do. I acknowledge that my mental health is a priority and I acknowledge that these are signs to a more negative side of my mental health as a whole.

I’m sure my Sunday Saves will be back next Sunday but if you ever feel like I did, just know that it’s okay, you’re not alone and that feeling will not last forever.

Thank you for reading ❤

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SS: Sunday Saves (#37)

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Happy Sunday morning! I hope you’re having a lovely day so far! If you haven’t seen my other Sunday Saves, you’ll find them right here. This week I haven’t focused on a theme so it’s just the best posts I’ve found this week.

1. Blog Eighteen (Yes, you can live for the moment and document it.)

How many times have you been told, “Do you have to take a picture of your food? Why don’t you just eat it?” Thankfully most of my friends know I’m on Instagram so they don’t have a problem with it but I’ve had my brother in particular who doesn’t get why I want a good picture of something that will be gone in ten minutes. It’s a good point to make but at the same time; whether it’s a photograph of your food or a photograph of your walk at the beach, it’s so lovely to have a memory of it. Lisa feels the same way as me in her blog post and she really talks about why it’s not such a huge decision between “living in the moment” and “documenting the moment”, you can do both.

2. It’s Becca Jayne (Some things are meant to be.)

“Life works in weird and wonderful ways” is a philosophy that Becca says she lives her life by and it’s something I’m trying to transition myself into changing my mindset into too. She talks about it more on a relationships level but for me, right now, I would rather spread it across all aspects of my life mainly because my focus is on myself and more importantly, self improvement. “If it’s meant to be, it’ll be.” Another quote that I would love, right now, to believe but I have a hard time getting my head around it. I guess that’s part of self improvement right?

3. Jemma’s Simple Life (Mental Health & The New Year | How To Beat The January Blues)

January is a pretty tough month for us all. Whether you’re not looking forward to going back to work, waiting for the dreaded January bills popping through the door or whether heading back into the cold weather is filling you with dread, it’s something that we all feel one way or another. Jemma shares her tips on how to deal with the January blues; getting outside of the house aside from going to work or planning something in the future so you have something to look forward to, are just some of her tips. I think it’s really important to make sure to notice the signs of a drop in your mood and use some of these ideas to help yourself, it only takes a step or two a day.

That’s all for today’s post! Remember to give everyone’s links a click and if you have any posts you think I’d like, tweet me over at @RetroSnowflake. Thanks for reading!

(Blogmas Day Sixteen) 8 Life Lessons 2016 Taught Me

Welcome to Blogmas Day Sixteen! There’s just one more Blogmas post left now!

So today’s post is Part Two of my 2016 series. If you’ve missed Part One, you’ll find it right here and that was Blogmas Day Fifteen. This post focuses on life lessons I learned this year, and I’m going to be completely honest, this is my most personal post to date on the blog. It’s very open and honest, and you might see it as a negative post but most of my life lessons I learned from the year, came from negatives experiences. That’s just the way it worked out.

Sometimes life is shit.

Yep, there I said it and let’s be honest, we all think it. Life is truly shit sometimes. People will drag you and make you feel like shit. Everything will become too much at times and you won’t know what to do. You’ll want to just crawl into bed sometimes, not talk to a single person and just sleep. You have to be your own positive influence in the end and teach yourself how to find the balance between letting yourself be upset and picking yourself up again. I understand that for everyone that is completely different and is a lot easier said than done.

People make mistakes. You are human.

Ever done something you regret? Ever done something you wish you could take back? Ever done something that you still makes you upset and want to block it out of your memory for good? Congratulations, you’re a human being! Learn from your mistakes, understand why you made them or why they happened, but never allow your mistakes to be held over you like you’re the only one to ever have made them.

Your past does not define you.

I have a past. You have a past. Your next door neighbour has a past. Your boyfriend or girlfriend has a past. We all do, and again, that is totally okay. Regret your past or embrace it, that’s up to you but at the end of the day, you have to move on from it. If you’re ashamed, you have to tell yourself that you aren’t that person you used to be; you’ve changed, you’re working every day to become a better person and that’s better than doing nothing about it at all.

Therapy was the best investment I have ever made.

I have been going to therapy for just over a year now and it truly is the best investment I have ever made. Everyone’s experience is different but mine was life changing and eye opening; I learned more about myself than I ever thought I could. I learn in every single session and I bring that experience into my every day life. Therapy was there for me when I was having the greatest days riding on Cloud Nine and it was also there when I felt like I couldn’t cope. I owe so much to this year to my counsellor and how she has helped me through the good and bad times.

Crying does not mean you are weak.

One of the most important lessons I learnt in therapy is that crying does not mean you are weak; crying is your body telling you have something to let out and let go. You build up so much emotion and so much tension, where else is it meant to go? It’s natural to cry, don’t be ashamed of it.

Heartbreak is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.

I went through a break up this year, not something that I decided to share a lot on social media. It broke me into a million pieces, it was really really hard. Now don’t get me wrong, I used to be engaged to a guy I was with for six years so this wasn’t my first relationship (It was only my second) but this relationship was nothing like my previous one. Nothing can prepare you for the heartache (pre and post break-up), the constant stream of tears, the flowing stream of thoughts of blaming yourself and the what if’s, absolutely nothing can prepare you. It’s hard, it sucks (I really wouldn’t wish it on anyone) but you learn more about yourself than ever before after it.

Friendship is so important.

My friendship group this year became rock solid for me in the past six months and I am beyond grateful for everyone who has been there for me. I gained a new best friend, Leonie has become my rock, she’s the best ❤ (and thank you for reading my blog Leonie!), Toni and Andrew have listened to my stories over and over again along with lots of tea, Caoimhe was there to comfort me with nights to Pizza Express and a tearful night over Indian food and finally Eoin, who I missed so much and I’m so glad to have back in my life again. Never ever underestimate your friends and how much of a positive influence friends can have on your life, in the good and the bad times.

You will be okay.

No matter what you’re going through, you will be okay. If you miss your bus, if you go through a break up, if you have a horrible day at work, if you feel like you can’t cope with what life throws at you, you will be okay. When you’re going through something at the time, you don’t believe it. You think that you’ll feel this forever and that it will never go away, trust me, it really really does become better.

Thank you so much for reading today’s post, it was quite a big one for me and despite how it looks, my year wasn’t all bad, but at times I definitely felt like it had completely defeated me.

SS: Sunday Saves (#23)

Happy Sunday and welcome back to my weekly Sunday Saves series where I talk about my favourite blog posts (or YouTube videos) that I have discovered throughout the week. If you’ve missed any of my other posts in this series, you can find them right here. This week I’m talking about mental health blogs, life updates and introducing wellness into your lifestyle.

1. Adventure and Anxiety (Mental Health Bloggers You Should Be Following)

If you’ve been reading my blog recently, you’ll know that mental health has been one of the more prominent things that I’ve spoken about lately. So when I came across Beth’s list of mental health bloggers you should be following, I knew I had to include it and yes, I have now bookmarked all these bloggers! I haven’t got around to read all their mental health posts yet but I’m glad I’ll have something to come back to when I’m not feeling my best.

2. Life as Unusuals (Wonderful Wednesday #9)

I’ve only started to read Kerri’s blog but I loved the way she put her life updates together and part of me also loves the fact that Wonderful Wednesdays sounds so good together. It’s a really nice twist on your usual weekly update blog posts that you normally see.

3. Pretty Not Included (Adopting An Authentic Wellness Lifestyle)

Can you tell I am in love with Sarirah’s blog lately? I featured her in last week’s Sunday Saves too. This week’s post however is about adopting an authentic wellness lifestyle but in the realistic sense. She’s not telling you to sit outside and meditate for three hours (In saying that, if I had the time and the capability to do that, I would be outside in rain or shine!), she’s asking you to be honest with yourself, question why you want to do it, to do it for only yourself and to make small changes in your mindset to help you along that way. Of course you can find out more advice on her blog!

Again, this week seemed very focused on wellbeing and mental health, which is quite nice because it’s something that is a constant thought in my mind and I like that my blog is reflecting that. If you have any blog posts that you have seen that you think I’d like, tweet me them over at @RetroSnowflake 

SS: Sunday Saves (#21)

I hope you’re having a nice Sunday so far (or Monday or Tuesday or whenever you read this). I’m back with another Sunday Saves discussing reading routines, acceptance and mental health. As always, if you’ve missed any of my other Sunday Saves, make sure you click here to read them all.

1. Bambi’s Blog (My Reading Routine)

One of my latest blog posts this week was about a subscription box that I signed up for to encourage me to read more, “Book and a Brew” so coming across Emily’s post about her reading routine seemed perfect. I haven’t laid out my perfect reading routine or even laid one down at all but Emily post really lays out a foundation that anyone can build on so I’m excited to see what will work for me.

2. Keeping Up With MJ (Acceptance)

Acceptance is such a huge part of my life; it’s a part of my life where I haven’t actually accepted myself. So how is it a huge part then? Well, I know I need to accept myself and I want to, I’m just struggling with that a lot. I’m finding it hard to move past mistakes that I have made and I have thoughts in my head about myself that may or may not be true so it’s trying to come to terms with that as well, then I will be able to make progress with being able to seek acceptance within myself. MJ’s post is something I know will help me in the future and it’s always one to come back to it if you find yourself struggling with that part of your life.

3. Road to Recovery with Amy (Welcome to Road to Recovery)

In my opinion, we can never have too many mental health bloggers and we can never have too many blog posts talking about mental health. It’s something that we all have and sometimes some of us do struggle with it. I think what Amy is doing is fantastic because it’s showing people her road to recovery when it comes to dealing with her mental health as well as letting people know that they’re not alone because many of us are going through the same thing.

This week’s Sunday Saves seemed pretty short this week but I loved all three posts as always, I related to all three completely. Remember to follow all the blogs featured this week; Sunday Saves is all about discovering new bloggers!