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Does Curating Your Feed Come At A Social Price?

I remember when Instagram first started and I thought to myself, “Why do we need a place just to post photographs? Isn’t that what Facebook is for?” Little did I know that it would become one of the most popular social media platforms in the world. However, over the last six months, I haven’t enjoyed it as much as I should and I started to put so much pressure on myself. So, instead of complaining about it, I did something about it and that’s what today’s post is going to be about. (I understand the irony of that last sentence because I know the first paragraph coming up, is me complaining) 

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Before you roll your eyes, I’m not talking about engagement. The amount of Instagram posts, blog posts and tweets I have read about “the lack of engagement” is shocking and quite frankly, very boring. I understand that the platform has changed recently and less of our followers are seeing our posts (I talk about how this hasn’t been the case for me later on in the post) but the constant stream of complaints is too much. Putting your new post in your Instagram stories but colouring half of it in to make me click on your profile and go to the new post, is not going to make me like your post. If anything, it’s going to make me swipe through. I understand why people do it; maybe it’s a tactic that works to get more people engaged with posts, but for me, it’s extremely frustrating. 

I have got caught up in the Instagram hype before. The platform was exciting and fun for such a long time but there was a time where I got obsessed with having to post twice a day and I always worried that I didn’t have good enough content. It’s that “comparison is the thief of joy” quote that comes into play and I can relate completely. My flat lays were never good enough, I didn’t think that my content was interesting and I saw so many other people who were so careful with what they posted that it became this beautifully matched theme. I started to question why I was bothering. Thankfully, I seem to have dug myself out of that hole before it got any bigger. It’s now is a place that I post on when I want to, not out of pressure (on myself). If I don’t post for a few days, I really don’t mind now. It’s the quality over quantity that I believe we should all be focusing on. 

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For the last few months I have struggled between two bridges. One bridge is supporting as many bloggers as I can and the other bridge being that I want to curate my feed with what I want to look at that fits my style, my personality and how I want to live. You can’t do both, trust me, I have tried.  

I felt guilty at first because I am a former people pleaser so that started to creep in a little; you don’t want people thinking you don’t like them especially with those you know locally. That’s the biggest pressure I put onto myself and I absolutely hated that I couldn’t get past it for a while. We preach so much about how important it is to put ourselves first especially when we talk about topics like self-care so doesn’t this fall into that too? What’s more important; following lots of accounts so you can say that you support everyone but missing out on the content you actually want to see or is it more important to see content you prefer but feel less involved with the blogging community? Do you even feel less involved because you don’t follow everyone? Do you have to follow everyone to feel involved? 

I would be the first one to stand up and say if my content isn’t your style or if you find it completely boring, then unfollowing me is the best thing for you. I could never be offended or annoyed at someone who didn’t enjoy my content anymore. I wouldn’t want anyone following me because they felt like they had to or they thought I would hate them if they didn’t. At the same time, I don’t want people to automatically think I don’t like them (because that’s not the case) just because I’m no longer seeing their content or simply because their content is just not for me, that should be perfectly okay. 

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I’ve never been someone to have one of those applications on my phone that tells me who follows me or unfollows me. I have no interest and I believe it can be quite damaging to your self-esteem if you are constantly checking who is unfollowing you. There’s certainly no judgement on my part if you are someone who likes to check that type of information but it’s not for me and really, is it any of my business why some-one doesn’t want to follow me anymore? 

I was watching Just Laura Jayne’s Instagram stories recently and she talked about the fact that we didn’t need to follow every single local blogger because we still see them at events and some we don’t even talk to even if we do follow them. I definitely felt the pressure to follow every local blogger or every blogger that followed me, even if their content wasn’t even close to what I wanted to see. Doing that meant my feed wasn’t curated for me, it was curated simply because I wanted to feel like I was a good person. It’s almost like we’re putting this platform on a pedestal and using it to show how connected we are like we used to do with having tons of Facebook friends or having the perfect top friends on Bebo. I shouldn’t have to prove how connected I am to an interest by how many of that same community I follow.  

Curating my feed took quite a few days; I wish I had saved the exact number of accounts I used to follow but I know it was close to the 2000 mark and now it’s around the 500 mark. I’m really happy with the changes I have made because I’m seeing more varied content which makes the platform more interesting again and it’s more “me” now. I’m following more accounts that post about home interiors, minimalism, wellness and health and you have no idea how nice it is to see more posts that I feel more connected to. 

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Funnily enough since making these changes, I find that more people are seeing my Instagram stories. Now, I’m not sure whether this has anything to do with minimising my followers but it’s certainly a nice surprise. I’m really happy that it’s something that I feel like I can be open about and put into my own words because it’s something I had struggled with for such a long time. 

As for the title of this post, does curating your feed come at a social price? It really depends if your followers determine your worth. If you’re doing it for you and you’re seeing more of what you want, then it’s not coming at any cost. If someone unfollows you because you don’t follow them anymore then that’s something you shouldn’t worry about because they’re in it for different reasons than you. However, if you slowly but surely see your followers drop and you feel bad about unfollowing the accounts you used to follow, then yes, you are paying the social price. At the end of the day, it’s all about how you view yourself on a social platform. 

I would love to know your feedback on this because I certainly can’t be the only one who felt the pressure to follow everyone, whether that was on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. It’s important not to take these platforms too seriously but at the same time, I can understand why someone would feel worried about unfollowing a certain person or a group of people. Thank you so much for reading today’s post and if you have any similar posts to this, you can always catch me over on my Instagram or Twitter. (Oh and all of today’s photographs are from Pexels.com)

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SS: Sunday Saves (#80)

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Good morning everyone and Happy Sunday! I hope you’re all having a wonderful weekend so far. Today I’m back on the blog with the eightieth edition of my Sunday Saves; if you’re new to the blog and you don’t know what my Sunday Saves are; it’s when I talk about three blog posts I’ve read during the week that I either relate to or I find interesting. I believe bloggers should support their fellow bloggers and this is just my little piece of that puzzle each week. In today’s post, I’ll be talking about winter changes, a different view on the phrase “everything happens for a reason” and asking ourselves if we are relatable enough.

1) Sophie’s Makeup (The Changes I’ve Made In Prep For A Cosier, Happier Winter)

Sophie’s post is something we all strive for in the winter months. Hot water bottles, cosy blankets, fresh sheets, Christmas markets and gentle yoga are a number of suggestions that Sophie talks about in her post. We all like a little change when it comes to this year so if you’re looking for inspiration, you know where to go.

2) Anticallacy (Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason)

“Everything happens for a reason” or does it? Well that’s what Piper is discussing in her post and I have to agree with her. I try every day to think positively, and while it’s hard, when something bad happens, I try and tell myself “everything happens for a reason”. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. I love Piper’s commentary on this subject because it really feels that there are so many layers but there’s not, and it’s about opening your mind to simplify it down. Bad things simply happen for no reason, and it’s something that I’m trying to believe rather than have my mind go in overdrive trying to explain something happening.

3) London Damsel (Are You Unrelatable?)

A constant battle with bloggers; Are we relatable? Do we want to be? Do you want your Instagram feed to be filled with people who have the exact same interests as you? For me, I follow different blogs because they gauge my interest in various aspects. I might read someone’s blog who really inspires me to be more adventurous with Autumnal styles. I might read someone’s blog who gives me the low down on the latest budget friendly skin care. At the same time, my fashion sense isn’t one of my strong points and I don’t know very much about skin care in general but those blogs draw me in because I’m taking away something from their blog posts. Maya talks about being yourself and producing content that you are passionate about, rather than what you think others will enjoy.

Thank you so much for reading today’s post; remember to take a look at today’s choices and send them some love on social media. If there are any posts you want to send me, please do over on my Instagram or Twitter socials! 

SS: Sunday Saves (#78)

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Good morning everyone and Happy Sunday! I hope you’re all having a lovely day so far. Today I’m back with another Sunday Saves and I’ll be talking about running a marathon, letting people help you and being in a blogging slump.

1) Claire Bella Loves (This Mum Can | I Ran A Marathon)

Claire ran a marathon! How amazing is it? It’s definitely a dream of mine but she done it, how incredible! In her post, she talks about when she started running and how it’s progressed from there; even when she couldn’t run for thirty seconds to joining a running club then to train for a marathon. Well done Claire!

2) Nothing Good Rhymes With Charlotte (Strength Is: Letting People Be There For You)

Before we get into Charlotte’s blog post, can we just appreciate the greatness of her blog name? Brilliant. So just by the title of Charlotte’s blog post, I knew I was going to relate to this because this is something I have struggled with. It’s hard to open up to people, it’s hard to tell someone you’re struggling and it’s even harder to be okay with the fact that you feel extremely vulnerable in that moment. She talks about anxiety and panic attacks; two things I’ve been unlucky to suffer from too so if you struggle to let people in when you’re at your most vulnerable, I think Charlotte’s post will help you.

3) Essential Twenty (I’m In A Blogging Slump)

I’ve featured Sophie quite a few times on my Sunday Saves but from her writing, we do seem quite similar so it’s not surprising she’s always featured. Blogging slumps; we all get them and right now, I would say I’m currently in a slump at the minute but not in a “I don’t have any ideas” way. I have quite a lot of ideas but for me, it’s finding the time. This week I didn’t have a free night after work and this week coming, I only have Tuesday night free. I know it’s all about balance but finding that balance is tough. If you’re in the same boat as us, go and give Sophie’s post a read.

That’s all for today’s post! I hope you’ve enjoyed all three posts and remember to head over to the blog posts themselves and take a read. Thank you for reading!

SS: Sunday Saves (#67)

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Good morning, happy Sunday and welcome back to another Sunday Saves! I hope you’re all having a great weekend so far! Today I’ll be talking about running, growing with your blog and a new face mask.

1) The Running Bug (Why Running a 5K is a Big Deal)

When I first started blogging about my 5K training (which you can read here!) I was worried that people would think “It’s only 5K, why do you feel the need to train for it?” even though if someone I knew was training for the same distance, I would be so supportive. I came across this blog talking about why running 5K is a big deal and it’s so motivating for someone who has either built up to 5K or is about to start. The calorie burn, your own dedication and even being less likely to hurt yourself. If you’re lacking running motivation, give it a read.

2) Elleanor Wears (5 Growing Stages Bloggers Go Through)

As bloggers, we go through many stages including embarrassment, writers’ block, having too many ideas and even feeling like you’re not good enough. Eleanor’s post goes through five stages that, as bloggers, we face at one point or another so if you’re doubting yourself or think you’re alone in not feeling in love with the blogging world, read her post, I think you’ll see that it’s not just you that feels like that.

3) Emer D Blog (Beauty Review: My Body Shop Must Haves)

Emer was one of the lovely bloggers that was also at the Body Shop event a few weeks ago and in her post, she talks about what Body Shop products she’s been loving. I also love her review on the face mask because I haven’t tried mine yet, but if her review is anything to go by, my skin will be glowing in no time!

Again, thank you for reading today’s post; remember to go and read them too because it’s always nice to support fellow bloggers in any way we can. Have a great day!

SS: Sunday Saves (#54)

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We’re half way through the year already! I can’t believe it at all! Anyway, happy first Sunday of the month. If you’re not too familiar with my Sunday Saves, it’s a weekly series that I have started to talk about three blog posts that I find that week. Today I’ll be talking about a beauty product I’ve been watching for a while, work procrastination and a PR’s nightmare.

1) Rosie Loves Life (Pixi Beauty Glow Tonic Review)

Ever since I have started watching (and reading) Caroline Hiron’s, I’ve wanted to try Pixi products but I still haven’t got around to it. Sharon talks about how it has worked well with her skin and it’s definitely further up on my wishlist now.

2) The Nerdy Me (How To Talk Yourself Into Doing Work In 5 Easy Steps)

Procrastination is one big sucker, isn’t it? When it comes to blog post writing, this hits me about 80% of the time. I know what I want to talk about, but then this cloud just appears and my motivation leaves. I get stuck because I don’t know how to start a certain post then I start thinking about everything else I should be doing instead. Leta gives us five top tips on how to reduce this, and this can be included in areas of your life like your job, your school work or even household chores.

3) Reinventing Neesha (Blogging for Freebies – A PR’s Worst Nightmare)

I remember reading this during the week and I was shocked at how some people could actually email PR’s with these types of message. By just sending your address and saying they want free stuff; the absolute cheek! Neesha tells us what she has seen working for a PR company and it’s interesting reading for sure!

That’s all from today’s post; thank you so much for reading and if you are interested in reading more of my Sunday Saves, you can click right here and you can read the other fifty three Sunday Saves.

SS: Sunday Saves (#52)

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Happy Sunday everyone! I hope you’re all having a great weekend so far, I know I am! So we’re back for another Sunday Saves where I chose three blog posts I’ve read that week and want to recommend to others reading my blog. So there’s no theme this week, so I’m talking about Paris, the difference between shyness and rudeness with a little creative flair in the middle.

1) Imperfectly Rachel (How To Spend A Few Days in Paris)

Paris is one of those cities I’ve always wanted to visit (and I feel like it’s on most people’s bucket list) and Rachel has written a little mini guide on places in Paris you should go if you only have a few days to explore the city. Even if you have an entire week, spread it out so you can drink more hot chocolate and eat more macaroons!

2) Joli House (How To Get Your Act Together When You’re Creatively Frustrated)

Having writers block when it comes to the blog can be very frustrating when you want to put content out, and then it’s a decision between putting out rubbish content or waiting until you write something you’re proud of. It is a lot of pressure and I don’t think we realise how much pressure we put ourselves under until we’re panicking about the state of our blogs. Lily Jane has a few suggestions on how to tackle those moments, and even if you have to make your peace with it, it’s better than stressing yourself out over one blog post.

3) Ashleigh Taylor (Shyness VS Rudeness)

This is one I struggle with a lot! I want to be that person that can put on a mask of self confidence and talk to everyone and anyone. Unfortunately, unless I’m in work (and even then, it’s a struggle) that’s not the case. I’m a naturally shy person; I don’t talk for the sake of talking for example so if I have nothing to say, I won’t say anything just to talk, but some people are like that, and that’s completely fine for them. Ashleigh shares the balance in her post with the difference between shyness and rudeness and I have to completely agree.

Thank you for reading today’s post! If you want to catch up with all my other Sunday Saves, you’ll find them right here! If you’re on Twitter, give me a follow on @RetroSnowflake and you can keep up with me on there.

SS: Sunday Saves (#41)

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Welcome back to another Sunday Saves, the forty first edition too! This week I’ll be talking about Twitter Chats, feeling lost in your twenties and why saying no isn’t the worst thing in the world. As always, if you’ve missed any of my other Sunday Saves, they’ll all be linked right here!

1. Half Girl Half Teacup (The Problem with Blogging Chats)

I love Twitter chats; they are one of the best ways to connect with so many other bloggers in such a short amount of time. However, they can be a little more stressful than I would like. I use TweetDeck so I set up a separate column to show me all the tweets associated with a certain hashtag but depending on how popular the chat is, I can barely keep up. I don’t agree with all of Jess’ points in her post but I definitely agree with timings; sometimes if I’m even ten minutes late, I think “I’m already late, is there any point?”. In terms of promoting your posts in a chat you’re not taking part in, I can see both sides of the argument. Yes, it’s frustrating as hell but take the example of the #lbloggers chat; for the most part, that’s the first hashtag I’ll use and I don’t mean to promote a post during that chat but it can happen when I’ve scheduled a tweet and I’ve completely forgotten. Twitter chats for the most part are wonderful and I would urge anyone to take part, just prepare to be overwhelmed with masses of tweets!

2. Lauren the Daydreamer (Feeling Lost in Your Twenties)

Oh I had so many expectations for my twenties and I haven’t hit one of them but over time, I’ve come to accept that. My life was so different when I was eighteen and I thought by twenty five, my life was going to be complete and I wasn’t going to be in this limbo I’m currently in. Well, my life couldn’t have turned out any more opposite than that vision. To be fair, when you’re eighteen, you think you have it all figured out (like I thought I did) so I don’t pay too much attention to my past vision of myself but I think it’s always funny to look back and think “Wow, this is not where I thought I would be back then.” I think almost every single person in their twenties goes through this so I like how people like Lauren are normalising feeling completely lost, because it’s so natural and it’s nothing to be afraid of.

3. Liza Tait-Bailey (Saying No Doesn’t Make You A Bad Person)

I think the title of Liza’s post says it all, doesn’t it? I am guilty of this, saying yes to things when I feel like I’ve taken on too much already. This year in particular, I’ve chosen to put myself first and not put myself under too much pressure and I feel like this is exactly what Liza is saying. You’re not the worst person in the world if you can’t do something; sometimes we don’t have the time, sometimes we don’t feel like it or we just simply don’t want to. We live in a society that will never be perfect and therefore, you will never be able to please everyone so if you take on those fifty things that need done for Monday, you probably won’t be thanked for putting yourself under all that stress. Doesn’t seem so worth it now, does it? There are exceptions to every rule of course but sometimes you want to put yourself first and that’s perfectly okay.

That’s all for today’s post! Remember to click everyone’s links because it’s so important to support the blogger community wherever we can plus they’re really great posts.