SS: Sunday Saves (#83)

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Hello everyone and welcome back to another Sunday Saves! If you’ve never been here before, this is the time of the week where I choose five posts that I have read and loved, relating to a chosen topic, and talk about them. This week I’m talking about personal style, and I have a blog post coming up soon on my own personal style struggle and how at twenty six, I’m still trying to find my own style.

1) Katy Belle (On Discovering Your Personal Style)

There’s always one woman you know who kills it every time with style and fashion and makes it seem so effortless; Katy is this woman and if you just look at her blog, you’ll see very fast why I think this. This post of Katy’s is about two years old but for me, it’s still very relevant. She talks about being in a similar position to myself but also realising that she wants to set herself free from buying clothes that she only likes and doesn’t love. It’s really important when buying new clothes that you genuinely love them, or else, why do you want to spend your money on something that you either don’t feel confident in or you “think” it will grow on you.

2) Thred Up (How To Wear One Pair Of Jeans All Weekend Long)

Hilary is my type of woman. I live in jeans; if I’m not in my workout leggings, I’m in jeans. I went through a stage in college when all I would wear was jeggings but I’m a jeans woman through and through. From the office, to a date night right through to Sunday brunch, we can see how one pair of jeans can do quite a few occasions and that’s what I really loved about this post. With my personal style in particular, I want to move from a plain jumper and a pair of jeans to dressing it up a little more so I’ve found some real style inspiration from this.

3) Life Unexpected (What Mama Wore #1)

Chloe’s idea behind her new weekly series “What Mama Wore” is lovely. She talks about her blog has primarily been focused around her daughter (who is so adorable!) but now that she’s starting school, she’s wanting to bring the focus back to herself and developing her style is one way that she’s planning to do this. I can’t wait to see how this series developed with Chloe; her first post talks more in detail about her style fears and her reasons for wanting to develop into more of a personal style. I also love the pink jumper she mentions (even though I have just said above that I want to move away from wearing jumpers all the time), I might need to see if I can find a similar one (and she gives you recommends on ones that are similar to the one she’s picked). I just really love the idea behind it!

4) Style & Life by Susana (Basic Wardrobe Winter Essentials For Style)

If you’re not sure about the winter essentials that you need to look good but keep warm, Susana has you covered. I already have a statement coat and while I feel like I’m too short to pull off over the knee boots, I feel like a turtleneck jumper is next on my winter essential wish list. Absolutely loved this must have list by Susana and I would even say this would be a good list if you were trying to structure your wardrobe by a capsule wardrobe theme or a seasonal minimalism view, this would be perfect.

5) Colours and Carousels (Finding Your Own Style Comfort Zone – And Going Beyond It)

Charlotte and I think on the same wave length. She talks about her metallic dress and on the rare time I wear a daytime dress, my first thought also is “How can I dress this down?” because I know for me, if I were to wear a dress and no-one is used to seeing me in a dress, I feel like I stand out like a sore thumb and everyone is looking at me. I get very anxious and because I’m not someone who loves attention on myself (This is one of the reasons why I don’t have birthday parties and it’s the main reason I dread when I get married; everyone looking at me? Aah!) dressing it down would be my go-to thought. Charlotte’s main point of her post is to find your comfort zone and just push past it with little baby steps. For me, I don’t want to dress down that dress, I want to dress my jeans up with a fancy pair of heels or wear a statement necklace to bring out a neutral outfit. It’s just about taking those baby steps first.

Well that’s all from my Sunday Saves today, thank you so much for taking the time to read and make sure to take a read of the other blogs mentioned too. Have a great week!

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SS: Sunday Saves (#82)

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Good morning, good afternoon or good evening all, and welcome back to another edition of my Sunday Saves. As you know from last week’s post, I decided to make a few changes to the series and I got quite positive feedback from it which I’m over the moon about, so thank you if you are a reader of the series. 

This week’s theme is minimalism. For the last number of months, I’ve been thinking of decluttering, minimising and becoming more of a conscious buyer so it’s a subject that I am very interested in at the minute. I asked on Twitter during the week for minimalism blog recommendations, so I’ll link the tweet here so you can go and see the other recommendations.

1) No Side Bar (7 Ways To Make This Year More Mindful)

Coming off the back of last week’s post about New Years Resolutions, I thought this would be quite a nice one to start off this week’s post with. Melani talks about being mindful and no, it’s not all sitting for three hours a day in silence, it’s so much more. Having a daily practice, even if that’s waking up at the same time every morning and having a cup of tea or taking time out first thing in the morning to meditate for five or ten minutes. Another tip is connecting people who are like-minded individuals so whether that’s online or finding a new group for a hobby that you have; because they always say you become most like the five people you surround yourself with, and you want to be the best version of yourself, right?

2) Break The Twitch (10 Minimalism Tips To Kickstart Your Decluttering)

Anthony’s post is needed for anyone either beginning their minimalism journey or simply someone trying to have a New Year clean (or an early Spring Clean?) because I think we can all admit that any type of decluttering can be very overwhelming. Starting small, moving on to something else if you get stuck and realising that this process won’t take one night or one weekend, are a number of the important tips that Anthony gives and it’s a must read for everyone and anyone no matter what type of cleaning you are doing.

3) The Tiny Life (Organizing Versus Decluttering)

Do you know what the difference between organising and decluttering is? Amanda has a short post on what she used to do and how she soon realised that what she was doing as organising and not decluttering. She said “this experience taught me that decluttering should always come before organizing” and I couldn’t agree more.

4) Less Feels Better (I Wore The Same Pants For 3 Months And No One Noticed)

I found Brianna’s post quite surprising to read; if you read the title, especially being a woman, it’s often us who are called out for wearing the same clothes over and over again, whereas it doesn’t seem to happen that often to men. I know the well known day-time talk show “Loose Women”, one of their presenters wore the same shirt each time she was on and she eventually had to address it whereas there was a news programme where the male presenter of this particular programme done the same thing with a suit, and no-one noticed. Brianna talks about her experience of only wearing the same pair of trousers three times a week, and it’s a very interesting insight. In my personal opinion, this technique wouldn’t be for me, I would like to own a few extra pair of trousers, only because I don’t have a tumble dryer and I would have to wait ages for them to dry naturally or over a radiator. I love this quote from Brianna, “it just shows you that people don’t notice things nearly as much as we think they will.”

5) Minimalism Life (Why I Love Saying No)

Saying “yes” seems to be one of the new trends to make us seem more appealing as people, to make us seem more fun and to give us more opportunities but Thomas is saying no. He’s simply saying no for a simpler life and I believe it’s an approach a lot of us should take. Doing everything all of the time, helping everyone out all of the time and being available all of the time is exhausting and stressful. His approach to saying no doesn’t necessarily mean you need to be a minimalist, it should be something we all take into consideration no matter where in life we are. He doesn’t just mean physical opportunities either; we could say no to spending less time on our phone, less time spent pondering over what someone said about you that you’re still thinking about. He’s teaching us to be more aware of what we REALLY spend our time on.

I hope you enjoyed today’s chosen posts, I like that there are very different topics but are still under the same umbrella of the subject of minimalism. It’s something I believe we should all be incorporating into our own lives, even with baby steps so make sure you go and click on today’s posts, leave them a comment or two or tweet me over on @RetroSnowflake with some feedback (Good or bad of course, just be nice about it if it is bad!)

SS: Sunday Saves (#81)

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Welcome to the first Sunday Saves of 2018! I decided that I needed a few weeks off from my Sunday Saves towards the end of December but I’m glad to be back in this New Year. Before we begin today’s post, I wanted to talk about two changes I’m making regarding this series. 

Before, I was talking about three different blog posts each week and now, I’m increasing that to five posts. For me, it’s first and foremost, I believe it will keep me interested in perusing the series and not losing interest. The second change which relates to the first change is that at least twice a month, there will be a theme. I found especially towards the end of last year, because I didn’t have a theme, I was able to choose blog posts very easily and it wasn’t challenging. Not that I don’t love those blog posts that I chose (because I truly do) but I want to be more selective, I want them to ignite something in me and hope that it translates to the reader too.

1) Not Dressed As A Lamb (How To Make 2018 Your (My) Best Year Ever)

Catherine listed a number of resolutions that can apply to anyone and I believe we should be implementing them into our lives in some shape or form. She talks about not letting people take advantage of you which I know, even today, I still let this happen. Not neglecting your health and putting yourself first go hand in hand because we know that we often treat our friends or our pets better than we treat ourselves and we shouldn’t. We should have the same respect for ourselves so those two resolutions are something we should all try and aim for.

2) Harmony Blaze (My Commitments to 2018)

Emma discusses three commitments rather than resolutions, that she would like to move forward in 2018 with. Living more consciously towards the environment and Meat Free Mondays go very well together and I believe it’s something that is very simple to make those small changes in order to achieve that. She also mentions self care and it’s something we can make more of a priority of ourselves, because I know that I feel guilty for having an extra lie in in bed on a Sunday morning, which isn’t a bad thing at all.

3) Ideas.Ted.com (9 Creative New Year’s Resolutions)

If you’re looking for creative New Year’s Resolutions then Ideas at TED has you covered and I was surprised at how out of the box their ideas were. Celebrating one of your failures with your friends, doing one thing that scares you knowing you’ll get rejected and choose one person you disagree with and take them out to lunch. Not your conventional resolutions right? That’s what interested me so much about them. Each of the resolution ideas have TED talks attached to them so if you’re a TED Talk watcher, you’ll love this article.

4) Poco Petite (New Year’s Resolutions and Reflections)

In her post, Hannah talks more about reflections than resolutions. While setting intentions for the year, I believe it’s important to look back on the year that has just past to see what worked for you, what didn’t work, what you want to improve on and how you felt. Hannah’s attitude to both these subjects of resolutions and reflections is refreshing; I tend to look more at my failures than my successes and reading her post, it’s something I need to take a more in-depth look at and see how far I have truly come in a year.

5) Twisted Paths: A Journey (New Year’s Reflection: Slow Down)

My final post for this week is by Hiro Nishimura and it is quite different to the other posts featured. It’s a “grab a cup of tea” post because it’s quite long but trust me, it’s worth it. She talks about a range of topics; living in the busy city of New York, not taking time to slow down and she talks through her story of how she had been diagnosed with Arteriovenous Malformation and then finding out later down the line that she had developed a brain tumour. It’s a harrowing story and she also discusses gratitude; how she really does appreciate the little things because she has been so close to death before. How one person went through such a health journey is so surprising and she now blogs about having a disability and life as a brain injury survivor.

That’s all from my Sunday Saves this week. I hope you can see how the changes have positively impacted the post because I can certainly see it myself and it’s given me that little boost I felt it needed. Thank you so much for reading and have a great day! ☀️ 

Changing My Perspective on New Year’s Resolutions.

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To me, New Year is quite special. We’re told that it’s cliche to think of the New Year as a fresh start but for many it is, and that’s how I view it to a certain extent. I’m very goal oriented and I love challenging myself but over the past year, I’ve seen how resolutions and goals haven’t worked “their magic” on me (so to speak). I need a new perspective on them, but I don’t want to give up on them completely so I need to change my mindset on them instead.

Smaller goals in three months?

This idea came from one of my favourite YouTubers Muchelle B. She posts motivational, inspirational, minimalism and organisation content on her channel and lately, she’s my go-to whenever I feel like I need a boost of motivation. I would write a slightly larger list of resolutions every year not really thinking about the true meaning behind them, and because the list was very large, it was hard to keep up. Muchelle’s video called “10 Tips To Actually Accomplish Your New Year Goals” helped me on the right track to breaking down my goals into smaller chunks, therefore making them more achievable.

(Number One) Clear my spare room.

I’ve been living on my own for one year now and yes, my spare room still looks like a bomb hit it. I haven’t had a large chunk of time to clean it all, organise it and tidy through it and when I would do it in little chunks; the amount of work I knew I needed to do became so overwhelming that I would close the door. It’s been a year, and quite frankly, every time I clean the house I never feel satisfied knowing that the little room upstairs is still a mess.

(Number Two) Finish my nutrition course. 

If you don’t follow me on social media, you won’t know that I signed up to a nutrition course. This is something that I’ve been looking at doing for the last few years and towards the end of last year, I took the plunge and signed up. The course has now finished but I haven’t; I became really busy and luckily for me, it’s the type of course that doesn’t have an end date so I’m going to be catching up over the next three months so I can get my certificate. It’s video and textbook based so it’s a longer process but if I really get stuck into it, I feel like my three month goal will be easily achievable.

(Number Three) Read fifty pages a week.

Every year I tell myself I want to read more and more often than not, it was always “read one book a month” and I can tell you that it never lasts that long. Not to put any pressure on myself, I decided to look at it from a different perspective and break it down into smaller chunks. Fifty pages a week is more sustainable; I can read ten pages an evening during the work week or if I have some free time at the weekend, twenty five pages in the afternoon each evening would be just as achievable.

Yearly reflections?

I’ve decided not to reflect back on last year’s resolutions; I normally would and have done for the last few years but because I’m going in a different direction with my goals, resolutions or whatever we want to call them, I’m choosing not to reflect. Sometimes it’s okay not to look back. Within this, I’m also taking a step back from my monthly intentions. Going back to the start of my post, I wanted them to be “little sprinkles of magic” to kick start me each month but it didn’t work out as well as I had intended it would.

What are your resolutions or goals this year? Do you believe in setting yourself goals? Let me know on either of my socials, Twitter or Instagram and I hope you have an amazing start to the New Year 

SS: Sunday Saves (#80)

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Good morning everyone and Happy Sunday! I hope you’re all having a wonderful weekend so far. Today I’m back on the blog with the eightieth edition of my Sunday Saves; if you’re new to the blog and you don’t know what my Sunday Saves are; it’s when I talk about three blog posts I’ve read during the week that I either relate to or I find interesting. I believe bloggers should support their fellow bloggers and this is just my little piece of that puzzle each week. In today’s post, I’ll be talking about winter changes, a different view on the phrase “everything happens for a reason” and asking ourselves if we are relatable enough.

1) Sophie’s Makeup (The Changes I’ve Made In Prep For A Cosier, Happier Winter)

Sophie’s post is something we all strive for in the winter months. Hot water bottles, cosy blankets, fresh sheets, Christmas markets and gentle yoga are a number of suggestions that Sophie talks about in her post. We all like a little change when it comes to this year so if you’re looking for inspiration, you know where to go.

2) Anticallacy (Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason)

“Everything happens for a reason” or does it? Well that’s what Piper is discussing in her post and I have to agree with her. I try every day to think positively, and while it’s hard, when something bad happens, I try and tell myself “everything happens for a reason”. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. I love Piper’s commentary on this subject because it really feels that there are so many layers but there’s not, and it’s about opening your mind to simplify it down. Bad things simply happen for no reason, and it’s something that I’m trying to believe rather than have my mind go in overdrive trying to explain something happening.

3) London Damsel (Are You Unrelatable?)

A constant battle with bloggers; Are we relatable? Do we want to be? Do you want your Instagram feed to be filled with people who have the exact same interests as you? For me, I follow different blogs because they gauge my interest in various aspects. I might read someone’s blog who really inspires me to be more adventurous with Autumnal styles. I might read someone’s blog who gives me the low down on the latest budget friendly skin care. At the same time, my fashion sense isn’t one of my strong points and I don’t know very much about skin care in general but those blogs draw me in because I’m taking away something from their blog posts. Maya talks about being yourself and producing content that you are passionate about, rather than what you think others will enjoy.

Thank you so much for reading today’s post; remember to take a look at today’s choices and send them some love on social media. If there are any posts you want to send me, please do over on my Instagram or Twitter socials! 

A Simple Step-by-Step Guide on How To Start Saving.

In my recently monthly intentions (which is linked here) I talked about wanting to create a savings plan for the New Year because while I’m not saving for anything in particular, I do want to have some money behind me in case an emergency pops up. So today’s post is about how I plan to start thinking about my savings plan.

Before we start, it’s important to know that everyone’s situation will be different; the questions that I ask appeal to everyone though so you can still use these questions to give your own answers and see how I’m planning on working everything out.

Decide what you want to save for.

Your obvious starting point right here. If you’re reading this saying to yourself, “I should really save” but you have absolutely no idea why you need to or if you only think it would be a good idea but don’t actually want to, simply don’t. If you don’t want to, just don’t. For those of that do want to save, this is your why. Why do you want to have that spare cash? Is it for a holiday? Is it for a particular purchase? A special occasion perhaps? Mine is an emergency basis. I don’t want to be caught out with just my income in my bank account, so it’s smart to have some money behind you at least, in case anything were to happen.

(My spider diagram isn’t completely organised but it’s a great way to get your ideas out quickly if you prefer something that isn’t in list form.)
Know what your direct debit (or essential) bills are.

For many people, they will know what their direct debit or essential bills are. They’re the ones that come out every month around the same time and you know they’re going to be the same price every month. Mine are my rent, my pet insurance, my TV, my internet, my electric and my phone bill. In terms of heating for example, I have oil so I can’t top up my gas every month on a card, I have to buy it in one big batch which can a big price every few months. It’s the same with food shopping; it really varies so that’s why tip number four will be very important here.

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If you want to save a particular amount.

Once you know what needs to go out each month roughly, have an estimate of how much you would like to save. This really depends on so many factors but because we haven’t looked at ALL purchases, this is just an estimate so I wouldn’t put too much thought into this yet. You also have to think, are you looking at the saving in a monthly term or a yearly? You’ll see it come together faster in a monthly term but with a yearly, if you can’t save one month, you can always move something about and save double the next month.

Keep a closer look at your purchases for the next month.

For those of you that don’t keep an eye on your spending, this will be a real eye opener. I’m not really strict but I wouldn’t just shop and not think about how much something is, and I feel like a lot of people are in that same category. In order to keep track of what you’re spending, you need to write everything down. Yes, even that coffee you bought at lunchtime and even that box of tampons. Absolutely everything and it’s important to do that because you can see what you are buying first hand. It doesn’t take long to do; you can either use your notes app on your phone or you can quickly write it down in a notebook. I tend to write the price too because it makes it much easier to add up at the end of the month. I’m personally not doing this particular process until January because November and December are such expensive months that it doesn’t reflect my true spending habits.

See if there is anything you can eliminate.

Maybe you’ve noticed you buy more coffees than you first thought? Maybe you didn’t realise how many times you were buying lunch during the week rather than meal prepping at home? There could be so many little habits that you pick up on that you didn’t realise that you done. I find it easier to write those habits down again in one list on their own, you can see them a lot clearer that way.

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We’ll take this as an example; I’ve listed my other debit debit bills which include my gym membership, Spotify, Netflix and my Book and a Brew subscription. Out of four of those, only three were important to me so a few months ago, I stopped my subscription for the book service. This meant I was saving myself £13 a month and while this isn’t what I’ve described above, it’s a good starting point before you go through every single purchase for the month. You can really pin-point first hand what you can potentially eliminate.

Plan out treats for yourself.

Treat Yo’ Self. (If you watch Parks and Recreation, you’ll know how boss Retta and Tom are). You have to treat yourself once and a while, and not all treats are free and that’s perfectly fine. You can still go for your monthly eyebrow appointment, you can still go for that monthly lunch date with your best friend. You have to work out what is important to you to take care of yourself so whether that’s your monthly subscription to Netflix or your Saturday morning cup of tea with your current book in your favourite coffee shop.

Take into consideration any special occasions.

Birthdays and anniversaries are occasions that you can’t avoid and you will have to take into consideration. They will come quite frequently throughout the year so it might be better to budget for these each month too.

Re-examine how much you would like to save.

Go back to your estimate and after taking into consideration what you can cut, what you would like to keep, those special occasions and the bills that you have to keep, how does your estimate look? Can you increase it or do you have to decrease it slightly?

How are you going to put it into place?

I wouldn’t suggest an old fashioned money box for this particular task; I personally would feel a lot safer putting it into a savings account and with online banking, this couldn’t be simplier. With some banks, you can even set it up to take a particular amount out of your account on a certain date so if you think you won’t even up transferring it, this might be the perfect option for you.

Decide when you’re going to start.

Normally I’m all for starting right away but when we’re talking about money, it’s always easier to start when you’ve just been paid because you have clear mind to go into saving mode with. Of course, you can start right away or even start the process at the beginning of the month, but I know I just feel more comfortable when I get paid.

These are quite simple steps so it won’t be for everyone but for some people (including myself) it can be hard to save money. Whether that’s not having a large expendable income or maybe not realising how much they’re truly spending. If this helps just one person, then I’ll be a happy woman. I hope you enjoyed this post, and if you think it could help others, please feel free to share it too ❤

SS: Sunday Saves (#79)

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Good morning and happy Sunday! Can you believe we’re already in December? I’m so stressed trying to get everything sorted but my week off from the blog last week was much needed. So I’m back, fresh as daisy, to deliver you weekly Sunday Saves. I didn’t want to do a theme of Christmas every week for the next few weeks so it was purely coincidental that two of today’s posts are Christmas themed.

1) Hey There Robyn (Why I Won’t Be Doing Blogmas)

Robyn posts speaks to me, and quite frankly, it feels like I’ve written it. I took part in Blogmas last year but I only posted every other day. Even that was a lot of work and I went on a short holiday during the month so I had to make sure I was organised ahead of time. Posting every day or every other day is a lot of time, work and effort anytime of the year never mind Christmas so I praise those that can do it year after year. Like Robyn, I don’t have time this year; I feel like I have too much on my plate to commit to it. She also talks about blogging guilt and pushing herself too far, two things I do myself so I can completely relate.

2) Sian Blogs (Right Now | Finding Yourself Series)

This series of Sian’s that she has started up is something I know I’m going to be keeping up with. Many of the techniques used in this particular post are something which I used in a number of CBT sessions so it’s nice to see the technique being used more openly and explained on a blog post. Her series is called ‘Finding Yourself’ so I’ll let you click onto her post to let her explain in detail about it, but it’s an interesting one for those of you who feel like they need to explore themselves further.

3) The Ethical Evolution (Have A Very Vegan Christmas)

Is this year your first vegan Christmas? It’s my first so I’m excited to see what I’ll be having. If I’m able to make some Yorkshire puddings, I’ll be such a happy woman. Lizz has some top tips and advice for foods you can get from the supermarket in order to make your Christmas dinner not so complicated.

That’s all from me this morning. Make sure to take a look at all the posts and give their blogs a longer read if you like the look of their content. Have a great week!