I know, I know, this could have had a better title, “Why I take myself out for coffee” sounds snappy and simple. However, I don’t like coffee but for this one purpose, I wish I did 😉
Anyway, back to the original point of this post. Today I’m talking about taking myself out for a cup of tea. I was one of those people who didn’t like to spend money on tea when I was out (unless I was with my Mum or a friend) because I seen it as a waste of money. Why spend £2 on a cup of tea when I can make something just as good at home for free? It makes sense right?
However, I’ve went through a few big life changes at the minute so I’m always looking for ways to distract myself and keep my mind busy. So you might be sitting here and asking the same question I once did, “So is there any difference between having a tea or coffee in a coffee shop or a friend’s, compared to just in your own place?” I can’t emphasise enough how different it is.
- New scenery: You’re not as comfortable as you would be at home, sure. You can’t just jump into your sweat pants and stick your feet up on the sofa, but once you get settled down, you create your own little comfort bubble almost.
- Friendly atmosphere: The coffee shop I go to is one of the nicest places I’ve been in. The staff are just so lovely and the general vibe of the cafe is very relaxed and homely; that’s something every coffee shop should aim for. You don’t feel like you’re taking up space either, I can sit for a few hours and order a few teas and I still feel as welcome as I did from the minute I walked in.
- Different distractions: I normally try and do something that I wouldn’t normally do at home. I take my colouring book and my pens with me (as you can see from the photographs!) because I know I can get engrossed in it there but at home, I might think I have to do something else. I also try and take a book with me in case I want a break from the colouring. I took my laptop with me last Saturday but I didn’t use it. My plan with the laptop is to use it to exclusively write blog posts on it and that’s it; I won’t be tempted by their free Wi-Fi! But if you’re not into any of that, you can people watch!
The only “con” is the cost. Yes, you pay for your tea and I use my bus card to get to the coffee shop and back. There aren’t a lot of coffee shops in my area so I go half way between my house and Belfast City Centre. The way I look at it is I do it once a week, I don’t over do it, I stick to a budget and I make sure I can afford it.
The most important reason for me is this, it’s improving my mental health. We all have our “better than most” days, our “okay” days and our really bad days. Getting out of the house when these sad moments happen makes me feel better some of the time (Not all of the time, sometimes it’s just easier to be on your own in the house and have a cry with no-one around!)
I know some people would be worried that if they went into a cafe on their own, everyone would notice. Trust me, they really don’t care. No-one is sitting there judging you for being on your own! You’ll probably find if they do see that you’re on your own, most of the time people will want to have your courage, because they themselves might find it nerve wrecking to do it on their own. You might just give them the courage to do it next time.
In conclusion, taking myself out on, what is essentially a tea date, is one of the best things I have done for myself lately. It’s given me time to think, it’s given me a nice distraction from other negative thoughts and it’s given me a reason to be excited to wake up and go out on a Saturday (That sounds sad I know, but it’s true).